At some point in your life, you will find yourself at a party where you only know the host. This can be a very stressful situation. The host will be busy attending to party business, and will be unavailable to sit and chat for very long. Rather than spend the party as the proverbial wallflower, a few simple small talk suggestions can help you to make new friends and enjoy the merriment of the season.

Things You Will Need

To successfully make new friends among a group of strangers, you will only need your own sparkling personality, a few facts at your disposal, and a cup full of a beverage. The beverage is not for getting drunk. The purpose of the cup is to take your attention away from what your hands are doing, so you can focus on the people you are talking to.

Step 1

The first step to making small talk with strangers is to try to avoid rehearsing conversations. If you practice saying things, they will sound exactly like that: scripted and rehearsed. Try to clear your mind and remember that other people are just like you. They get nervous, they forget things, and they have also been in just the situation you currently find yourself.

Step 2

The second step to small talk is a basic principle of humanity: we love to talk about ourselves. We appreciate finding people who will listen to us talk about ourselves. Everyone at the party has one thing in common: they all know the host in some way. Pick a friendly looking person and ask them how they know the party host. Sometimes you will find out fascinating things about a person that you did not know before. If they are co-workers, ask them about their jobs. If they are relatives from out of town, ask them about their hometown. If they belong to a church or club together, ask them about it. If they send their children to the same school, be sure to ask about them. Parent love to talk and brag about their children. Soon you will find yourself in a stimulating conversation and will realize you have forgotten to drink from the cup you are holding.

Step 3

If the previous step seems to be working, you can then feel free to talk about yourself. Sometimes, if you have been a good and patient listener to someone, they will then feel comfortable enough to ask about you. Remember not to use phrases that you have rehearsed ahead of time. On the cuff speaking has a natural rhythm and cadence that practiced speeches lack.
The approaching holidays usually mean a lot of entertaining. While it is unlikely that you will know everyone at every social gathering you attend, there is no reason for you to feel uncomfortable in unfamiliar situations. Parties are supposed to be fun! The few tips described here will have you decking the halls and mingling with people you may ordinarily never have met, while having the best holiday of your life.

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