Tina Turner sang the song titled "True love" with these lines, "women of a certain age, they learn to relax and judge all his response.." Age has its advantages, you have experience to you side. It also has it disadvantages, you have more emotional baggage. That should'nt be an impediment to you finding love. There is no need to feel too old or inadequate. Even those in their 30s do feel little qualm when it comes to love. It is normal to be apprehensive and unsure. Love hasn't really changed much since the last time you dated. People have change and the language of love has evolved. That being said, good old love remains forever. What is good old love? That feeling you get when you see that special person and your heart start to beat irregularly. When you can't eat, think, sleep and just feel totally overcome by emotions. That feeling that tells is so stronger you have no doubt. Finding love after 50 is something that should be natural and without controversy. To find love, you need to work at it starting from yourself. Take a look at the list below:
Children: You cannot continue to live through your children. They might get bored of you or you might get bored of them. You need to start thinking about yourself and your needs. Children at times think parents don't have feelings just because they've got a bit of grey hair. That is not true because people in their 50s or over are just like teenagers, the only difference is that the vitality is no longer the same. If you want to find love you could enlist the help of your children. They could probably hook you up with the mother or father of some of their friends. If they know what you want, your children will be only more than willing to help. You don't have to be hypocritical about it or embarrassed.
Volunteering: You will never find love if you stay at home. Volunteering is a good way to make contact with more people. When you think about helping others, it will improve your self esteem and you will ooze confidence. That is something that most people find attractive. The fact that you have to go out and meet people will help you think more about your personal appearance. You need to be presentable and outgoing. You help people whilst helping yourself.
Grief: If you are still not sure about betraying the love of your deceased spouse, you need to let go and look ahead. There is no need to wallow in self pity. You need to think about yourself and what you are able to give to others. You might even surprise yourself that you are still able to love and be loved. You will never have the same bond you had with your previous spouse. You might even end up finding something better. You will never know if you don't try. You can never grief forever, so you need to get out there and do something with your life. That is the whole point of being alive. It is about living. If you want to find love, you have to live life.
Sex: There is no need to think that love over 50 should be devoid of sex. Of course at that age, you might have more things to worry about than when you were in your twenties. You might worry of dying of a heart attack in the act. You might also worry about not being able to perform. If you are worried ask your doctor. Sex is part of marriage. If you don't want any, you have to try to find someone who might think like you. Contrary to popular belief, a lot of people would happily go without sex. I am not sure how many of those are men. You can interpret that whatever way you want.
Emotional Baggage: do you have emotional baggage that you have carried with you over the years? The likelihood of that is great. That shouldn't be an issue if you have been able to identify them and are dealing with them. You should not go on a date and drown others with your sorry tales. You might scare potential lovers away if you start by talking on about your hysterectomy and future brain transplant. Enjoy your date and talk about general subjects. Take your mind away from your worries. They will still be there waiting for you when you are done with your date.
Companionship versus Love: Depending on your needs, you might not want to go into a full blown relationship. You might just want someone with whom you can talk and go out and have dinner. If that is the case, you will be better of sticking with your male or female friends. Finding love doesn't have to be different than when you were younger. There are a lot of people in their 50s and over who want commitment. You need to make sure you understand your needs and date accordingly.
Internet: You would think dating and find loving on the internet is for the youths of today. Don't be fooled. There are numerous sites that cater to the needs of the over 50s as well. If you have a rudimentary knowledge of the internet, you could learn to connect with people from all over the world. As with everything over the internet, precaution must be taken. That fact that you are in the relative privacy of your home doesn't mean you should start revealing thinks like credit card number, pin code, bank account to strangers. The rule of the game is this; don't do on the internet what you would not do in day to day contact with people. You might not be that young; you could still enjoy the fun of chatting and receiving emails. You will also get to know why chatting and texting can be additive. You will be checking your email account quite frequently just for the thrill of knowing someone out there wants to tell you something.