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How to get a girl

By Edited Sep 24, 2016 1 2
How to get a girl

Get your perfect girl

The question that every single guy has asked him himself. How to get a girl?

Now I don't mean, how to get any girl, I mean, the girl. The girl that makes you smile, the girl that makes you turn your head when she passes by, the girl that makes your hands start to sweat when you see her, the girl whose name gets your heart racing.

Luckily, I got my girl, but I know lots of other men are having trouble, so let me explain how to get a girl, how to get your girl.

Unfortunately, it's not simple or easy. You can't control how another person feels about you. That's a fact. Even if you think that this girl is the perfect girl and you will both be happy together, if she doesn't like you, then there is a problem. I have four tips here that will improve your chances.

 

1. Be yourself.

This is the most important tip that I can give anyone. It may be tempting to try to be someone else, someone who the girl will like, but if you want a real relationship, then it won't work in the end. I know it may sound stupid, but I have made this mistake more than once. You can only pretend to be someone else for so long.

When I was dating my first girlfriend, I pretended to be someone else. I changed myself completely. For example, I told her that I really enjoyed listening to country music. It was something she loved, and I pretended to like it, so I could talk to her about it. This was basically my way in. After a few months of constant country music, I couldn't take it, I don't like country music and I told her this. She felt very betrayed, I lied to her, from the start of our relationship. This turned into a huge fight, one of which lead to end of our relationship.

I am not saying that you shouldn't try new things, or bend your interests a little, I am saying that you cannot completely change yourself and pretend to be someone else.

 

2. Don't become obsessed.

This is very important. This is something I am guilty of. When I was younger, I would tend to get really attached to girls, fast. Don't make the same mistake as I did. When you start dating a girl, or even before you ask her out, tell yourself to take a step back and relax. You don't need to respond to every single text message within 10 seconds, you don't and shouldn't be the first to always initiate a conversation and you don't need to talk to the girl every single day. You need to give her room. You have to create mystery, if you know what I mean. Don't make yourself too available, or too easy.

This is tricky advice to give. I am not saying never call the girl, or never respond to her texts. I am saying don't over do it. It's true, girls like the chase, just as much as guys do.

 

3. Enjoy this moment.

The nervousness, the excitement, the sadness, the frustration. Enjoy it. The beginning only happens once, and it is filled with such intense emotions. That girl says hi to you in the morning, and all of sudden you feel like superman for the day. She doesn't respond to your text within 1 hour, you feel like dirt. As much as the emotional roller coaster may seem like it sucks, it's an experience. Try and enjoy it, because you will look back in a year and just smile.

 

4. Take the risk.

Ask her out. Just do it. When I was younger I was scared and would rarely make the first move. Even with the love of my life, she was the first one to kiss me. This is something I regret. Take a risk, I know people say what's the worst that can happen, but really, what is? She says no. At least you know. You can be sad for a few days and go find the next, better girl. Just do it. If there is never going to be a relationship, why waste 3 months of your life thinking about this girl. You could have spent these 3 months with a better girl, who loves you. You really have nothing to lose, but lots and lots to gain.

Don't worry about the rejection. Sure, the girl said no and your buddy might laugh at you, but deep down he is upset because he doesn't have the courage to do the same. As you get older, you start to realize that mistakes and failures are great. You will become a better man, you will become a more desirable man, and one step closer to getting the girl. And hey, when you ask her out, maybe she'll say yes.

 

I am not going to lie, there is no magical way on how to get a girl. There is no simple answer, or simple action. The most important thing is to be yourself, don't give up, take risks and just do it. Ask her out tomorrow. Just do it.

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Comments

Apr 11, 2011 4:40pm
LPerry
I love the advice about being yourself. I think this comes with experience too. Girls also pretend to ADORE sports and men-stuff so a guy will think she is "cool".

I once pretended to love fishing for this outdoorsy guy and inside I was so upset about the poor fish as I am an animal lover....LOL

You are right that this backfires in the worst way....nice article :)
Apr 11, 2011 6:47pm
nicolascole
Thanks LPerry. I know exactly how you felt, but maybe it's one of those everyone just has to go through.
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