Things To Think About Before Getting Back With My Ex
So you are you finding yourself saying " I am wanting to get back with my ex." Well I have one word of advice that you need to think about. If you are wanting the same relationship that you once had with your ex, well that just isn't going to happen. You broke up. You both said thinks that hurt. One of you probably cheated or were just a plain pain in the butt.
You or you partner may have went on a binge and did some crazy stuff since the break up. Have you? Do you think they did? How is that going to effect the relationship in the future if that is the case?
Maybe the breakup was a one day event, but most likely there was something wrong for quit some time. Have you accept ted responsibility for the things you have done wrong? How about you ex? Are they still blaming everyone but themselves?
First of all, until you both have accepted responsibility for the things you have done wrong it the relationship, you should not even think about getting back together.
Second, it will never be the same as before. That sounds bad, but it could be good. If it was bad enough to end the relationship, then you do want that kind of relationship back. You want better!
If either one of you could have done some things since the break up that we won't even mention here, well that is part of the package now. Can you deal with that? You should not throw that in their face for the rest their life. If you did someone, do you want that thrown in your face all the time?
Next, you are probably forgetting about the bad times that you had in the relationship. People have the tendency to only remember the good parts of the relationship when that are missing their ex. I can tell you that there were bad times or you would be in the place you are in now.
So you and your ex have excepted blame and excepted the things that have happened since the breakup and now you are wanting to get back together with your ex.
Think of this as a brand new relationship. In a sense, you both are brand new people. How would you attract a new person if you were in the market.
First you would be begging them. You would want to play a little hard to get, have a little mystery about you. Just because they know the old you, doesn't mean that they know the new you.
There are certain techniques that you can use to help you learn how to do this. Honestly it only takes a little of this knowledge to go a long way. You have probably been out of the dating life for a while and it doesn't hurt to seek knowledge and help from someone that can help you learn how to get back with your ex.