Trust is a primary cornerstone in any given relationship. When two people share a life together, whether it is a dating relationship, a more committed long-term union or marriage, it is one of the key factors which will determine the level of the relationship's success.
Whether trust is being established for the first time, or being rebuilt after a breach of trust, if the relationship is going to thrive, it is important to make a serious effort to establish faith. When one partner does not trust the other, odds are the relationship will lead to conflict, heartbreak, misery or a breakup.
Successful relationships need strong levels of trust, and there are many ways to build it. If a person's motives are on the up and up, building trust tends to come naturally for most people. However, it doesn't hurt to give a little effort too, especially if one of the partners has been burned before and is afraid to trust anyone.
It is especially true in new relationships, but does apply to long-term partnerships as well. It is vital for both partners to just be themselves. Putting on a façade or showing flat-out "fakeness" in terms of beliefs, likes, dislikes, feelings or any important (and sometimes non-important!) issue doesn't do the relationship any good.
For instance, say a person were to lie about different topics, attributes or issues, once the "real" personality or truth surfaced (and it would over time!) a partner may feel betrayed or lied to when the information spills out. Not to mention a person being anyone else but his or herself is probably not going to make one feel too happy in the relationship anyway. Carrying on a façade ultimately leads to a tangled web of fallacies.
On the other side of the coin, it is important to keep in mind, when a partner is being truthful about his or herself, don't judge. 1 This can make or break the relationship.
Best for anyone to avoid all that hassle and stress and just be "real" from the get-go. Anyone who fakes themselves in a relationship is pretty much dooming its success right from the start anyway.
Honesty - Always
Honesty is a fundamental building block in any relationship. Lies, omissions or fallacies quickly, and most directly, lead to strong levels of mistrust being partners. If a person wants to either damage or end a relationship, a lack of honesty will do it.
In order to build trust, always be truthful in actions and words. Conflict that may result from honesty can be difficult to manage in the short-term, however in the long-term being honest is what will eventually amount to strong levels of trust between two people.
Follow Through on Words Spoken
Words are nice, but action shows more. To build trust, especially if it has been previously broken, it is essential for a person's actions to mimic his or her words. Promises should be kept, care demonstrated and anything else said should always follow with matched behavior.
This is one of the issues that arises in relationship issues such as infidelity, a person speaks the right words, but his or her actions tend to show otherwise. When this happens, trust is generally shattered either immediately or over time.
Strong and healthy levels of communication is essential to relationships. Two people should consider the bond between one another comfortable enough to open up to one another and talk about feelings, concerns, successes, failures and ideas.Credit: Oscar Rohena Oscalito on Flickr/CC BY 2.0 with Attribution
If one member of the relationship is unhappy, angry or has some other need that is not being communicated, this can lead to trust issues on either side of the partnership. The withholding partner may feel ignored or neglected when his or her partner is not meeting his or her needs. This can result in erosion of trust, and the partner who is left clueless may feel mistrust once he or she learns his or her partner has not been truthful about their needs.
Actions and words that are secretive, or at the very least, vague, lead to questions by the partner on the receiving end. In today's tech-centric world, one issue many relationships face is dealing with access to accounts. As an example, it is common for cheating spouses to lock their phones or keep their passwords secret. Relationships that do not have trust issues generally don't see these kinds of things happen. Those who have nothing to hide, do not need to hide. There is no reason one partner should act secretive about whereabouts, friends, phone calls, or other daily interactions. Relationships that have healthy levels of trust do not need to share every detail, but truthful partners also are not afraid of transparency if their mate asks.Credit: Elizabeth Ashley Jerman (Flickr User EliJerma )/CC BY 2.0 with Attribution
Partners that have been caught lying should kick transparency up significantly if they want to save the relationship and see their partner trust them again. New relationships are a bit different. One does not want to share every personal detail, so transparency applies more to long-term, committed or married couples.
When faith is absent in a relationship, there will always be questions, mistrust and worries which can ultimately lead to the end of a relationship. Trust building in a new or established relationship is a good way to develop a natural sense of comfort and faith in the partnership.Credit: Leigh Goessl