How can you achieve and maintain high self-esteem?  Don't base your self esteem soley on other people's opinions of you.  Focus on your accomplishments, your talents, and your contributions to your family and community.  If you do well in school, excel at a sport, or desplay other talents, your achievements and the encouragement you receive can boost your self-esteem.  Below are some additional tips for boosting self-esteem.  Try to incorporate some of these suggestions into your daily life.  you will gain confidence in your abilities and feel better about yourself.

  • Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses.  Learn to focus on your strengths and build on the things you do well.  Don't dwell on your weaknesses, but identify areas where you can make an effort to improve.
  • Set ambitions, but realistic goals for yourself.  Then develop a plan to achieve your goals.  Take time to appreciate and reward yourself when you accomplish a goal.
  • Do not be too hard on yourself.  It is normal for teens to be critical of their appearance, their abilities, their interests, and their shortcomings.  However some of these teens are overly self-conscious and judge themselves too harshly.  When you make a mistake or experience a defeat, figure out what went wrong.  Try to learn something positive from the experience and then move on.
  • Rely on you values.  You will feel better about yourself when you do things that match your values.  Avoid doing things just to "go along with the flow".  Choose friends who share your values, support your goals, and encourage your efforts to do your best.
  • Learn to accept compliments.  Do not reject them!  Sometimes the other person giving you the compliment is being trully sincere and is actually praising you.  Rejection of this offered praise to your deeds may possibly lead to a strained relationship with that person and might even cause you to lose a close and caring friend.  However, you must really try to distinguish genuine praise from some insincere flattery used only to get on your good side.
  • Look beyond your own concerns.  Do something nice for others.  Consider helping out more at home or doing volunteer work in your community.  Building and maintaining strong relationships with members in your family boost your self-esteem because you know they will always be there for you no matter what.
  • Do not focus too much on appearance.  A focus on appearance can undermine self-esteem.  Making sure that you are well-groomed, however can help build self-confidence.