"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
"Happiness does not happen of it's own accord. It is obtained only by conscious choice. Choose to be happy."
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said,
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life.
But there was always some obstacle in the way, Something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my “life”.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you finish school,
until you go back to school,
until you lose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds,
until you have kids,
until your kids leave the house,
until you start work,
until you retire,
until you get married,
until you get divorced,
until Friday night, until Sunday morning,
until you get a new car or home,
until your car or home is paid off,
until you are off welfare,
until the first or fifteenth,
until your song comes on,
until you’ve had a drink,
until you’ve sobered up,
until you die,
until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
When it Rains...
... put on your dancing shoes and go find the puddles!
A few months ago, Illness took up residence in our home for a few weeks. The girls dealt had horrible coughs, fevers, and vomiting. My husband was so sick one night, we might have gotten two hours of sleep. He was feverish, but chilled, nauseated, and sick as could be. The icing on the cake was pink-eye for everyone.
Illness was not the only damper we had to confront. There were stressful work-related issues with my husband’s job as a medical resident among other things.
Was there a silver lining visible through all that junk?
OF COURSE!!! Though sometimes it was difficult for me to see through the pelting rain, the rainbow was not so far off in the distance.
I don’t mean to sound like I was happy through it all. Internally, I was pouting, I was moaning, was complaining, and I was NOT "choosing to be happy" as well as I should have initially.
Only after making a conscious effort, did I being to see things in a happier. In this case, choosing to be happy was not simply a one-time decision. It was a process.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about happiness it’s this:
Happiness is not a stagnant thing that I can just catch hold of and expect to stay with me for the rest of my days. Nope. Sometimes I lose my grip on it. Other times, I voluntarily fling it far, far away.
Today is another one of those “when it rains, it pours,” kind of day. So, today, I'm choosing to hold onto the happy things in my life and be grateful. Today, I am metaphorically dancing in the downpour. :)