Intimate Relationships
No man is an island. This was the famous quotation of John Donne, an English poet known for his realistic and sensual style of artistic writings. The quotation itself means that human beings do not thrive when isolated from others. True enough, there are some people who succeeded and enjoyed being single but it cannot be denied that deep within their hearts, they long for company at one point in their lives. Indeed, humans need to fulfill a certain need that money can't buy – LOVE.
Love is a very profound word that has a complex meaning depending on how a person views it. But no matter what they say about it, one thing is for sure, this can only be realized through a relationship. It might be a relationship between lovers, among friends, family members, and ultimately with God. At the outset, it is just a plain interaction of individuals that when properly cultivated, it becomes an intimate relationship in the long run.
An intimate relationship typically calls for the involvement of both parties for it to succeed. It is a link between two or more individuals through a close personal association and makes each other feel that they belong. Having knowledge and experience with each other's company all the more inspires both parties to strengthen the emotional attachment for each other. However, each person involved must strive to display genuine interest and affection to make it known to the public and hopefully make it last for a lifetime.
Foremost, this intimate relationship does not easily pop up in an instant. There must be a series of essential events leading to the cultivation of this unity between or among the persons wanting to have a close connection with one another. It usually starts with the getting-to-know each other stage wherein through heartfelt conversations and frequent meetings, somehow you will identify if you are on the right track of finding the one to have a relationship with in the future.
Once you unravel the hidden thoughts as well as the feelings of the other person, this might signal the next move for you to make, which is to declare the intention of having a relationship. It matters if you display genuine affection, understanding and humor to overcome the doubts and apprehensions of the person you are pursuing. Make sure you will be able to gain the trust of that person so that you will not have a hard time to go to the next level.
Right after getting the approval of having a relationship with that person, a lot of things should be considered to develop it into a full grown intimate relationship. The process itself takes mutual efforts on both parties to ensure that the emotional investment they have will not be put to waste. The actions and conversations should be in line with the motive to enhance the relationship to a level of intimacy that cannot be shattered easily.
When that particular level of intimacy in a relationship is established, the process itself will not stop here. As a matter of fact, the individuals involved still have a lot of things to consider in sustaining it. Doing so requires the unconditional participation of both parties. It means that even if the other person cannot fulfill his obligation at point in time, the second party will not act like the other. In other words, help each other to make it work for both of you.
Having an intimate relationship with the one you love has advantages and disadvantages. Talking about advantages, on top of this is the involvement in each other's life. You now have the privilege to know even the most private activities of your partner. The emotional attachment is now stronger than ever unlike before when you are starting to build a relationship. You feel more secured that someone is there for you no matter what happens. Whether you failed or you conquered life's challenges, at least you know you have someone to talk to, to confide with your thoughts, your misfortunes, and your aspirations. Together you prepare for the future like no other.
However, the disadvantages of having an intimate relationship should not be taken for granted and should be properly dealt with by both parties. One of these is that you now have a limited time for yourself or to put it simply, your personal activities will be lessened unless your partner is with you. It seems like you are already tied with the person you are with by virtue of the intimate relationship that you share. It cannot be denied that the feelings of obsession, possessiveness, jealousy, and insecurity will come out. Still, it all depends on how you handle the situation and win it all.
Sometimes, the thought of intimate relationship connotes having more than the physical closeness and ends with sexual activities. Now if one will not attend to the biological needs of the other, conflict arises. Frustration sometimes leads to hanging out with someone else. That's why to avoid it; the only solution is to give in to the demands of each other.
But this dilemma will not occur if you have set a limitation from the very start as far as sexual intimacy is concerned. All you need to do is let the other party understand your moral standing and make it known that the intimate relationship you have does not carry with it the sexual activities for the time being unless you are already married. Besides, sex is not at all a big issue if both parties have agreed upon.
Yes, it's nice to have an intimate relationship with someone else but bear in mind that you should be responsible enough in every undertaking in line with it. Take time to consider the possible consequences if you do something just to enjoy every moment you have. All it takes is simply the maturity of both parties so that their emotional investments will prosper and the level of their intimacy is something that will not be moved by any hindrance that comes along the way.


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