Dating sites are a great way to meet people for friendship, love or even a fling; while most people in those websites are who they say they are, there are always a few rotten apples who give dating websites a bad name. For girls who love girls there is the extra problem of trying to figure out if the person they are talking to is who they say they are. There are some guys who pathetically attempt to fool girls into believing they are also women looking for someone special to satisfy their own fantasies and others are there to scam the women on the sites. So if you are a girl looking for love, then how do you know that you are actually talking to another girl? Here are some of the red flags to look out for.
Looks Too Good
One of the classic things that guys will do when they pretend they are someone else is to use a picture of a woman who just looks too good. Many times they will use the pictures of models and claim to be them to attract more people to their profile. Most women are aware of this trick and will not fall for it even the first time that they see it.
I need to be clear that this does not mean that really good-looking people are not looking for love, but if every single picture is a model photo then it is clear that you are not talking to the real person you think that is at the other end. One thing that you have to keep in mind is the same advice that you know about everything else: "if it is too good to be true, then it probably is."
No Mic Or Webcam
Another thing that guys pretending to be girls in dating sites will do is that they will let you know ahead of time that they do not have a microphone or a webcam. While some people using older computers may not have those things, today you will have a hard time finding a computer that does not come with both already installed. The reason they will be quick to say that they do not have those things is because you would be able to see that they are not the person they say they are and you would know the truth right there and then.
A lot of times they will include the statement that they do not have a webcam or microphone right on the profile, but keep in mind that even if you see a person on a webcam that may not have that person on the other end of the line. Some are able to use another person’s webcam feed to get you to believe them. if you want better proof or have doubts then simply ask them to lift their pinky finger (or do anything random). If they will not do it then you are looking at a feed.
Sexy Bedroom Pics
The pictures that you see on a profile can tell you a lot about the person you are talking to. Unfortunately a lot of these perverts have access to pictures from a loved one and they will use those so that you can believe them. One common way of knowing that you are talking to the right person is the angle in which the pictures show the subject. If all the pictures seem to be taken by someone else and the girl is always in a sexy pose, then there is a good chance that you are talking to either the person who took the pictures or someone who stole them from the web. There is a chance that you are talking to the right person, but that is not always the case.
You should also not believe self shots either especially if they are all to try to turn you on. They could have been a gift to someone who is now using them to pretend they are that person. Again, a good way to find out if they are telling the truth is to ask them for a particular thing they can do when taking a photo of themselves. A lot of the scammers and men will then tell you that they no longer have a camera or that it is now broken to avoid sending you a picture.
Talks Sex Right Away
A lot of the men who get a female profile are there to have someone to talk dirty to, so they will not waste much time before they jump into the subject of sex. There are many ways that they can do that and one of those is to start giving you many compliments to see how you react. Women also can want to get to the sex part right away, but they are a bit more patient and will make sure that they can show you that they are actually a woman. You really have to use your instincts with these people to know the difference.
Sex is a common theme in the “looking for casual sex” portion of a dating site, but just because you are looking for something casual it does not mean that you have to talk about it right away. Take your time until you are comfortable that you are talking to the right person and you will not fall victim of these guys.
Wants “Hot” Pictures Immediately
Women are visual too, but not nearly as much as men. If the site you are using allows you to have private pictures that no one can see unless you authorize them then those looking for a quick thrill will want you to give them access to those pictures. If you do not have any they will ask you to send them directly to an email address. The email address may read like a girl’s address, but remember that anyone can create any email address they want.
When it comes to pictures or any information for that matter, remember that you are sending it over the net and you should never send anything that you do not want in the public domain. Sending compromising pictures over the internet can quickly make you a star that you do not want to become. Remember that some of those guys are there to fish for pictures they can later sell to different people or websites so girls be careful when trusting someone online.