Remember the time when someone stepped on your foot? What did you do back then? Ever felt like a bursting volcano and unknowingly, doing something harmful to your loved ones? Explore more about the feeling of anger and know whether it is really normal or not.
First of all, anger is not only for birds. Many of us already experienced it – even babies! Why so? Anger is definitely a very normal human expression though most of us perceived it as a negative side of ourselves. Importantly, it is a warning beacon for us that alert us from a potential threat or happening. Just remember the time when you ordered something in a restaurant and it took almost an hour for them to serve it. You exploded by asking the manager out of his office and started complaining. Why? Because you want to avoid getting hungry and missing your dinner. And that is definitely and exceptionally normal.
In order to clear out the negative connotations of anger, one must remember that it can be differentiated from its negative complement, aggression. Unlike anger, aggression features actions that promote threat or harm to its possible victims. Oftentimes the value of anger in an aggressive person is not equivalent. This value of aggression, when not given attention at its earlier phases, may lead to full induction of impulse disorders.
As said before, anger is not always a primary emotion. It is known as part of an emotional sequence within a self-response to hurt, desperation and anxiety. It then results to the typical fight or flight response, rendering the physiological capacity of one to react in a certain situation.
Anger is definitely innate. But expression of anger is a different matter. Anger manifestation is often learned not just generally from the environment but the confrontations we encountered. Throughout the experiences we are handling, we develop a sense of personal control in our anger. That is why some of us have a high threshold before exploding and the rest are very sensitive, having the typical anger management issues. Thus anger expressed inappropriately may result to so-called powerful aggression and leaving its mark of destruction and self-threatened scenarios.
Thus, one must remember that a normal anger is a healthy anger. How? Things channelled through anger must be properly handled and with directive assertion. A positive force for creation and not destruction should be evident to promote problem solving skills and an effective change in the situation. That’s why don’t be afraid to get angry – just make sure it is the right place.