Many people tend to think that being single means
being lonely or unhappy. But this is simply not the case. It is just a myth.
The truth is that the only singles that are lonely are those who choose to be
lonely. Singles are not without life. Many people tend to think that
they can be happy by getting into a relationship. If you don't feel good about
yourself, then you need to work on that before seeking a relationship. One must
be happy with you first. Relationships are not for filling voids but to share
you with another person. Expecting someone to fill the emptiness in life
can lead to disappointment and resentment. You have to be happy with yourself
before you can expect to be happy with someone else. A lack of a marriage or
dating partner does not make one happy or sad. A relationship is not a
guarantee for happiness, satisfaction, or fulfillment. Happiness is within us
and we are only responsible for our happiness and no one else.
Many people also tend to think that being a Single means being a failure. I have seen mothers cursing daughters because they have not caught the attention of an eligible single man. Being single or in relationship is no way to measure a victory or failure. In fact there are more benefits of being single compared to being in a relationship including cheaper living, freedom from responsibilities, job growth opportunities and lack of stress that come with relationships. Being single may give you more time for hobbies, education and career, travels and relaxation, being with friends and family etc. Being Single helps one to be independent. One should make the most of this time in your life instead of wasting time in unnecessary despair. Some people even go one step ahead and declare that something is wrong with you if you are single. This is a wrong way to look at things. Being a single or not is a choice. Regardless of how many times you have attempted and failed to get into a relationship it does not mean anything is wrong with you. It simply means that there might be changes that you need to make or improve.
Society also may not look kindly at guys or girls who are above the age of marriage but are still singles. But that is no reason to get into a committed relationship. We have to put efforts to please ourselves first and not the society. Don't put your life on hold just because you are single. You are the only one that decides how you want to live your life. Do not get into a relationship just because some may think that being single is unacceptable. If you do so then you would be getting into a relationship for relationship sake and that would be the worst mistake you could commit. There is no need to feel bad if you are Single and not dating anyone. This is the golden time and you should enjoy it while you can. So till you find the right person to settle down with enjoy your freedom. Ultimately you are only responsible for your own happiness and being in a relationship or not have nothing to do with it.