Single males all over the nation (perhaps all over the world) struggle
with the cleanliness of their apartment. Many of them worry about
bringing females into their bachelor domain and have to spend hours
preparing when they plan on bringing a girl home. This can be a lot of
work and much more stressful then it should be. However, you can keep
your apartment "female friendly" and have something that you aren't
concerned about women seeing. You can even use a few good tips to make
it possible to have girls just "drop in". It doesn't have to take a lot
of work or a special sort of guy.
It Isn't As Bad As You Think.
Most women are fairly used to the idea that men can and often are slobs. While this means that we are probably going to put you into a group or stereotype (whether or not you deserve it), it also means that we are likely to be a whole lot more forgiving when we see your apartment. We will ignore a lot of things that would send us running other wise. This works out well for most men. It also means that you can take a deep breath and relax. You don't have to get stressed out. You don't have to try to impress us with something that you aren't (eventually we will figure it out if the relationship continues and it could cause additional problems if we get married or move in together and we find out you really leave your dirty socks everywhere and you don't rinse your dishes!). However, having a generally clean place will make it more likely that we will want to stay, especially if you are hoping for us to join you for the night.
Before we arrive give your apartment a once over. Pick up everything that shouldn't be laying around. Often this includes dirty laundry, used dishes, and mysterious items. (If you are one who is into porn, you should pick that up too!) While we can forgive you for being messy, we will be much more surprised, pleased, and likely to keep coming back if you have done your work. If you have a roommate who is also a messy sort of guy, pick up after him too if he refuses to pick up after himself. After all, the women that you bring back aren't going to know that it isn't your underwear in the bathroom and it isn't your dirty dishes at the desk. Finally, it should be noted that if you get in the habit of picking up each day then you will make it less likely to get caught with a huge mess. Simply pick up once a day and you will find your apartment in much better shape. This will also make it less work to plan for special nights at your place. Remember, things we may trip on, things that may disgust us, your dirty clothes (especially underwear), and your dirty dishes (or worse old food) are some of the most important things to pick up.
Keep Your Dishes Rinsed.
It is best if you get in the habit of keeping your dishes rinsed. It doesn't mean that you need to spend a lot of time in the kitchen. It doesn't even mean that you need to do the dishes, it just means rinse them well. This will make them easier (and faster) to wash when you are ready, but more importantly it will eliminate questionable growths and odd (or down right stinky) smells in the kitchen. These easy to grow science experiments are not a good thing for anyone involved, so rinse the dishes to prevent them!
Go Over The Bathroom.
You don't have to spend hours scrubbing the bathroom with a toothbrush, but it is a good idea to clean the toilet before your female friends arrive. Girls find it gross to see (and have to use) a dirty toilet. Sure you can stand over it, but we have to sit on it for comfort. Give it a good cleaning. Use Listerine instead of expensive toxic cleaners for a fresh scent and great clean (putting it in a spray bottle will let you spray all the surfaces and even the front where you may have missed). It will also kill germs! Cleaning the sink is also a good idea, but not as important. If you are hoping to get in the shower with your female friend then you should also give that a once over.
Might Be a Good Idea...
While those are the minimum things to do before she arrives you may want to do a little more then that for great impressions. You don't have to, but consider them bonuses if you have time:
- The dishes- Wash the dishes either by throwing them in the dish washer (if you have one) or by hand. Take the time to take care of them as well. Wipe down your counters and stove in the process.
- Vacuum- Run the vacuum over the carpets and make sure that the furniture isn't overly dirty (or crummy). Take the time to get the entire floors and along the base boards.
- Sweep- Any floors that aren't carpeted should be swept up for a better look. You don't have to mop if you don't want to or don't have the time, but getting up loose debris is a great idea.
If you want to be able to have women "pop" in without causing embarrassment (on your part or their part) then it is a good idea to do the first three on a regular bases. Make them into good habits for a cleaner bachelor pad. The dishes, vacuuming, and sweeping should also be done on a semi-regular basis. Deeper cleaning that includes dusting, mopping, and scrubbing should be done every now and again. If you don't have time, energy, or know how of getting these deeper cleaning jobs done then it is a good idea to hire someone to clean for you once a month or once every other week. This will give your apartment a clean "boost" every now and again.
Making a female friendly place to bring your girl or potential girl back to doesn't have to be a ton of work. It should involve some habits that will make it loads easier to take care of and a decent place to have a woman drop by without warning is the best way to go. It is also a good idea to put a little work into it and to think about the places that your girl will want cleanest. You should also be aware of the things that will bother her the most. You don't have to become some super clean, organized, neat freak. But getting your act together and your place picked up a little is a good thing!