My husband and I have been together now for 9 years. Like anyone else, we've had our share of ups and downs, but we've made it this far and look forward to many years to come.
We have recently been faced with a new challenge in our relationship. His current employment has taken him out of town. We've gone from seeing each other every day to trying to squeeze in a few phone calls daily. To put it mildly, it sucks! Aside from the normal marital aspect of things, he is also my best friend and being gone has definitely put a hamper on things.
It is the little things you take for granted that you don't realize, until it hits you that your spouse isn't going to be there when you get home. And the things that normally get put off until tomorrow really get interesting when you are trying to cram everything into a 2 day visit or a 10 minute phone call.
Credit: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CandleSo now I find myself sending that random text during the middle of the day just to say I love you or I miss you. Or calling when I know he's busy, but I call anyway just to hear his voice mail play. Doing my best to make every moment count when he does come home. Sending those "I sure hope no one sees this but him" texts on the day he's coming home to give him something to look forward to! Romance shouldn't die unless you let it. Use your head, most common sense things that brought you closer together when you were dating will still work years later. And if you think about it, I'm sure that over the years you found new things your partner likes and what brings you closer. If you're uncomfortable in that tiny sexy outfit, GO for it anyway! It's your husband, he loves you and he's going to like it no matter how you think you look! Light candles, turn on some music...make memories! Take those 10 extra minutes to snuggle up together in the morning, have breakfast in bed.
Credit: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_(symbol)Compromise, compromise, compromise! Don't waste time arguing on trivial things, and don't tell each other what to do or have unreasonable expectations. Really listen to what your spouse is saying, you don't have to agree but communication is so important. Sometimes in this hectic world between work and raising children, you have to MAKE time to date. Even if it's one night a month, set aside that time for you and your spouse to enjoy quality adult time together. Marriage isn't something you do and then it's done. You have to continuously work at it, but the outcome is worth it!