Everyone Struggles With Failure

It's Your Attitude That Counts

Are you someone who has a difficult time following through with your goals?  If so, feel comfort in the fact that you are not alone.  Almost everyone struggles to make meaningful changes in life because it requires a lot of momentum.  In this article, you will learn one simple key to building that momentum and achieving success.    

We have a natural tendency to follow the same habits and patterns throughout life.  Even when we realize that change is necessary, it is often difficult to overcome our habits.  Unfortunately, after failing over and over, we often develop self-defeating attitudes and beliefs that make positive changes virtually impossible.  For example, perhaps you have been trying to lose weight.  You make a goal to consume less than 2300 calories per day.  Everything is fine for a few days, where you have consistently reached your target.  However, someone has a birthday party at work and you have a big slice of delectable cake.  When you get home, you discover a plate of irresistible chocolate fudge brownies that your significant other made.  Feeling helpless to resist, you have just one brownie that puts you over the limit.  Rationalizing that you have already failed, you have another one.  Now that you are feeling depressed, you down a glass of milk and reach for a carton of ice cream.  You get the picture.

When this scenario replays over and over, you lose the will to make positive changes in your life.  After all, what is the point of making goals if we are going to break them anyway?  That is why many people never bother to even make New Year’s resolutions.  It all seems pointless because every new resolution is another opportunity to disappoint yourself even further. 

Fortunately, as I mentioned earlier, you are not alone.  We are all in the same boat.  However, there is one major difference between those who reach their goals and those who develop a habit of failure.  Those who accomplish their objectives have a lighthearted attitude towards failure.  That is the key to success that will allow you to shrug off your failures and build momentum toward your goals in life.   

People who achieve great things do not succeed overnight.  There are always obstacles and failures along the path to success.  The only difference is a matter of perspective.  Instead of seeing failures as a reason to be depressed, achievers see failures as stepping-stones to success.  In other words, the ability to succeed is all in your head.  It’s all about your perspective.

Instead of criticizing yourself and feeling sorry when you make mistakes, look at things from a different angle.  Learn from each mistake and try to do things differently.  The next time there is a birthday party at work, see if there is a vegetable tray or eat a smaller slice of cake.  Never get down on yourself, and take little steps each day.  Rebound from your failures and you will surely succeed.  

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