Introduction - Active Listening and Steps to Become a Better Person:
If you have ever wondered how to become a better person and actually wrote a list of all the things you could think of, then listening is probably one of them. If not, then be sure to add it to your list now! Active listening is one of the most important and respected action a person can do. When you listen to a person you are having a conversation with, you will make him feel confident and warm. Try it out the next time you have a conversation! Besides, according to Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse, this was how Siddhartha reached his final stage of enlightenment: by listening to the river itself! How thrilling!
Why is listening to someone speak so important in becoming a better person? Well, let's think about it this way. How would you react when you talk to your friend about something really important and notices that he is not listening at all? Worst off, what if he was playing on his iPhone and doesn't even seem to be
slightly interested in your words? Well, most likely, you would not be very happy. You would probably finish up your point sooner before it actually should be finished. Why? Because when a listener is not paying attention to what the speaker is saying, many time the speaker would feel disrupted and lonely and would try to cease the conversation as soon as possible.
You first lesson learned today is to listen to others when they are speaking. Next time when you go to work or school, try this method out. When you talk to your boss or you best friend, listen attentively to what he or she has to say and maintain eye contact. Say "Hmms" and "okays" at the end of every few sentences. You will surely be impressed by how much more he or she will be able to add, and how happy he or she will look when they finish their conversations!
Real World Uses:
Listening is one of the most basic concepts of human interaction, and this technique can be used practically anytime and anywhere in the world. In your next job interview, for example, try to listen attentively to what the speaker has to say. Look into his eyes and make yourself attached to him. At the end of every few sentences, make a reply; an "I see" or "Mhmm" works very well here. At the end of the interview, thank him kindly and wish him well. If your interview was above par, you will definitely feel that he was impressed greatly by you. This also works in college interviews. In the interviews of Brown University, for example, the interviewer does not receive any information about you apart from your name, address, email, and phone number. This works really well here because having manners is one of the most important aspects of human interaction, and included with attentive listening skills, you are ultimately utterly undeniable.
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