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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Where to Look for a Mate

By Edited Nov 28, 2016 5 12

Mating Season 

Unlike other seasons, the "mating season" never ends. On any given day of any given month of any given year, there is someone in search of their "perfect soul-mate." Every single day there are single people hoping to become one-half of a couple. Folks generally don't want to be alone and they will go to great lengths to find other folks who also don't want to be alone. 

Bars are full of individuals hoping to find Mr. or Mrs. "Right" over Mr. or Mrs. "Right Now." Men and women are taking to the internet or joining matchmaking services in hopes of meeting that special someone who will love them "for better or worse." So, just where do all those singles, hoping to become doubles, go to find a companion . . . and more importantly, where can you go to meet a mate?

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Where to Look for a Mate


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Where can a single person go to meet someone? The bad news is that there are no Mates-R-Us stores, however, the good news is that you can meet someone anywhere! The key is meeting someone who is compatible with you, but how do you do that? You can start by joining a group. 

The chances are pretty good that there is a group or club that specializes in whatever it is you enjoy doing. Cities are filled with book clubs, photography groups, and many other organizations you can join or volunteer to help.  If you are active, look for walking, jogging, hiking, surfboard, skating, biking, or any other active groups. 

Are you political? Join a group which represents your political views and meet likeminded individuals while helping your cause. If you enjoy reading, you can find book clubs at several bookstores. In many cities there are senior citizen groups, some even have mall-walker clubs for those sensitive to the sun. 

If you enjoy the outdoors, join groups that do things outside such as bird watching, gardening or other outdoor lovin' groups.  If you have small children, join a single parents group (that is, if you don't mind meeting someone who also has children).  

What do you enjoy doing? Find groups and/or clubs that do the things you like to do and begin to meet people who enjoy what you enjoy.

Popular Places to Meet Others

You've probably heard that the best place to meet someone is at church or the grocery store but you can meet someone practically anywhere. The following are the most popular places; 

Social Gatherings: If you're looking for a mate, you should make it a point to attend each and every social gathering that you are invited to. The chances are quite high that you will meet other single people at these types of events. 

School: Even if you're past your school days, you can take some night or weekend classes. You will no doubt meet people in these classes, however, even if you don't meet the person of your dreams in a class, you will learn something new. 

Church or Synagogue:  Many religious institutions provide the opportunity for single people to meet and get to know each other through single's groups and activities. 

Restaurant Bars: Invite a couple of friends to join you at a restaurant bar during happy hour. Not only will you meet other people but you can enjoy a meal and beverages at a discounted price. It's great if you're on a budget. 

Market: If you want to meet other single people at the market you must go in the evening or on the weekend. If you see someone interesting, don't be shy go up to them and say hello. You can even ask them for advice on an item you are buying. 

Work: You can meet people at work, even if your company has a policy prohibiting co-workers from dating. You can meet other non co-workers by doing things with co-workers after work hours or you can allow co-workers to set you up with friends. 

Online: There are a number of online dating sites you can join. Trying to meet someone online may sound easy because you can sit at home in your PJs scrolling through photos and information on potential mates, however, you must be careful because people are not always who they say they are and the photos may be old or may not even be theirs. 

Gym: If you’re into working-out and you are looking for a partner who is also physically fit, what better place to meet than at the gym? 

Special Events:  Every year a group called the Polar Bear Club gets together to swim on New Year's Day. If the idea of jumping into the ocean or a pool on the first day of January appeals to you, join the club. There are also groups that put together speed dating events. While not traditional, you can meet several people in a short period of time through speed dating.

All You Need Are Friends

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A great way to meet someone is through a friend. Whether it's a blind date or just a group get-together, friends are a wonderful resource for the single person. If one (or more) of your friends wants to set you up on a blind date, don't automatically say no. Take a chance. If you don't want to go out on a full-on date, meet for coffee or for a short time at the local mall. You'll know within a few minutes if you want to see each other again, and if you both feel the same way you can plan a longer date for the future. 

Don't Give-Up 

Every day there are single people hoping to meet a mate and every day some succeed while others fail. So, what's the difference between success and failure? The people who succeed are the ones who don't give up, no matter how many failures they may go through.

So, where can you go to meet people, anywhere! Don't stop looking for love, just stop stressing about it.

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Jan 20, 2013 11:43am
Can I add one more piece of advice - don't be too desperate. Some people, it seems, just can't be without a significant other and throw themselves at whoever comes along if they are not in a relationship. It doesn't work and only leads to heartbreak. Be patient and be yourself - there is someone out there for all of us.
Jan 21, 2013 5:56pm
So true! Good input, we should collaborate on an article :o) Thanks Dave!!
Jan 21, 2013 6:49pm
Nice idea, but I'm not sure how it would work or what I could contribute. It would be interesting to find out.
Jan 21, 2013 7:22pm
I dunno - just thinking out loud :)
Feb 18, 2013 7:42pm
You mentioned the market.... A long time ago I lived in Dallas and the grocery store near me had "Singles Nights". They ran disco lights, etc. had snacks and games, etc......
Feb 19, 2013 5:15pm
Literally a "meat market."
Feb 19, 2013 6:29pm
Jul 13, 2013 10:49pm
Mate, "a commodity in the market place."
Feb 24, 2013 7:02pm
Thanks, this article made me feel better.
Feb 28, 2013 2:15pm
You mention of online dating that "you must be careful because people are not always who they say they are..." which is too true, and sadly most dating sites are not doing anything to secure their members from the problem, but I'd like to suggest an even bigger issue is you must be careful because Dating Sites are not always what they say they are! My best guess is that at least 50% of all dating websites are scamming their own members and it might be higher than that.
Jul 13, 2013 10:43pm
The concluding phrase or epitome,
"Don't give-up" is what I like best in your article.I have used the phrase to motivate others in their endeavours.Never give-up even when the worst comes to the worst.
Aug 29, 2016 7:46am
Very well written article. One of the most important things is to get out and socialize, no matter what it is. Staying home and expecting Mr or Miss Right to come knocking at the door is not realistic, and yet I know so many single friends who don't get out. Any of the examples you gave in your article are great useful ideas.
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