Be More Charismatic and Make Lasting Connections
"You never get a second chance to make a first impression"
Leaving a good, lasting impression is key in the fast-paced world we live in today. Impressions are "quick to form and hard to change." Here are key tips to make a great first impression:
Tip 1: Look polished. Appearance is the first thing that we notice about a stranger, and it is important to look your best when you want to make a good impression. Make sure that basic hygienic needs are taken care of (such as having wrinkle-free clothing or brushed hair) and your attire is appropriate for the occasion. In other words, dress for success. This also includes having good posture; shoulders back, chin up.
Tip 2: Have a positive attitude before you walk into a room. One's mood often shows on one's face, so make sure that you are in a positive mindset before meeting with anyone. It may be easier said than done, but small things like creating your own motivational mantra or forcing a smile often help; which brings us to the next tip.
Tip 3: Smile. A warm and inviting smile is proven to not only make you feel better, but also those around you. A smile gives off the impression of confidence and approachability; two keys to making a great impression. It eases stress and makes it seem as though you know what you're doing; even if you may not.
Tip 4: Have a firm handshake. Women, this rule applies to you as well. Firm handshakes impress and are often the first physical contact. It's important that your handshake is a good one. A good handshake is firm, dry (no sweaty hands), involves eye contact, and is reasonably timed.
Tip 5: Eye contact. This should be a given, but you'd be surprised at how many people let nerves get the best of them and forget to give eye contact. Giving good eye contact shows confidence, commands the attention of whomever you are talking to, and engages others.
Tip 6: Introduce yourself confidently. A good introduction is brief, friendly, and open-ended. Try "Hello, my name is ____, what brings you to ___ tonight." Make sure you smile, state your name, and ask an open-ended question. More kudos to you if you make the first move; that is a sure sign of confidence.
Tip 7: Do not interrupt. In the heat of conversation, it can be tempting to interrupt someone to get a few words in; but resist it. Interrupting is not only rude, but also a sign of disrespect. It is acceptable to interject during pauses, but make sure that whomever you're talking to is finished with what they are saying, and has completed their thoughts. Unsure when someone is finished talking? A simple head nod can help to either prompt others to continue talking, or work as an easy conversational transition.
These seven basic tips are simple, and with enough practice they will come naturally to you. Remember, body language says more than words ever will. Practice these tips and you will project an enviable level of confidence, and most importantly make a killer first impression every time.
Anything I missed? Have any killer techniques you use? Share it in the comments!