So many New Year Resolutions don't even make it beyond January, why is this?
The are just 3 keys things you can do to give you the best chance of making a successful New Years Resolution, things that everyone can do.
New Years Resolutions That Work
Achieving Your Goals
The First Step
The first step is to think about the goal of your resolution and why you are making it.
Is that resolution what you really want? If it isn't, you will fail!
You must please yourself first and not others, in doing so you may please others as a bonus, but if you are doing it only to to stop others nagging you for example you will almost certainly fail.
It must be what you really want to do! If people are not doing something willingly you will be amazed at the excuses available they can come up with for not doing it, added to which on a subconscious level people will frequently sabotage their attempts without being aware of what they are doing.
Whether it is losing weight, stopping smoking or any other goal, if you are doing it for yourself you are more likely to be successful in your aim.
The Second Step
Write your New Year Resolution down somwhere you can look at it from time to time, not necessarily every day, although that does work for some people, but often if something is visible all the time it eventually becomes part of the furniture and you no longer "see" it.
Writing down your resolution really does work, a recent experimental survey of 100 women wanting the same goal of weightloss was conducted with some significant results. 50 % of the women just made the weight loss resolution and the other 50% made the same resolution but wrote it down, over one year the results showed that the group of women who wrote it down lost twice as much weight as those who didn't!
Writing down your resolution to improve your chances of meeting your goal involves a little bit more than writing " I want to lose weight" for example, although certainly write that down. It also requires a little thought about how you are going to meet your goal, a plan of action is required. Don't be alarmed and put off at the thought of this, it should only take about 20 minutes.
Think about how you are going to achieve your goal and situations that may arise in future that might be difficult for you handle. Think when your resolution might waiver or fail, then write down a plan to overcome the situation in adavance so you don't have to come up with a solution on the spot, which can be very difficult, be prepared!
An example of such forward planning can be asking for help, everybody needs help at times and why shouldn't you get some from friends or family. If for example you are trying to lose weight and have a friend who likes to persuade you to eat that extra bit of cake or pudding when you visit them, take some action beforehand. Take them into your confidence, enlist their help by asking them to help you out as a good friend, tell them exactly how they can help you, It might be as simple as when you say no to something they accept that you really mean it and they don't push you further on the matter, or not even asking in the first place
By planning ahead otherwise difficult situations that arise can be dealt with often quite easily, a plan can make the difference between success or failure .
Such planning will also enble you to see if your goal is realistic and achievable, because if you can't see a way of achieving your goal it's not likely to happen. Asking for help may be one of the ways to make things happen whether from friends, work colleagues or professionals, it doesn't matter where, remember genuine friends will be happy to share in your success. They should also be able to accept that when you say "no" you mean it!
The Final Step
The final step is to put your plan into action, until you are ready to put it into action the best plan in the world is not going to help you. If you keep doing the same things you've always done don't be surprised if you keep getting the same results, with the right motivation of a realistic New Year Resolution you can change things for the better. If you want to change you don't have to wait until the next New Year, start now!