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Making Your Dreams a Reality

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I'm tired of chasing my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they plan to be, and hook up with them later. --Seen on Twitter

As a classical music teacher, I get people coming in to my studio every day who have had a dream of singing or playing piano. Some of these people are in their 40s or 50s; a few are in their 20s, and I even get a few retired people each year. I understand, being a Baby Boomer myself, that many of us were talked out of our dreams by our parents, who grew up with the Depression, World War II and rationing, and other privations. I certainly was, and did not reclaim my dream until I was thirty years old. And for many of us, we came from families who had other problems: poverty, lower social status, lack of education, or some other factor that prevented us from going after "the pie in the sky." If you are one of those people, I have nothing but understanding for you.

However, at some point, we have to take charge of our lives and make our dreams a reality, or give them up. If you are ready to invest the time and effort into making your dreams materialize, then it will take a lot of hard work, sacrifice, and self-examination to make your dreams happen. At times it may not seem like it's worth the effort. However, if you are prepared to do what you must, then your success or failure can be attributed to you! Rather than living with unachieved dreams, you will be able to make your dreams real.

The first step is to realize what your dreams actually are, because many people's beliefs about their dreams are in conflict with their reality. For example, when I lived in Europe, practically everyone I knew told me, "Oh, I have always dreamed of going to Europe!" I would always say, "Fine, you take care of the plane ticket, and I will take care of everything else." In many cases, at that time a round-trip ticket was available for under $300, well within the ability of almost anyone to save up over a year or so. Yet in almost a decade, only one couple ever took me up on my offer! All those other people did not really have the dream of going to Europe, or they would have found a way to make it happen: take out a small loan, cut back on pizza delivery, or something else. A great way to understand what your dreams truly are is to try some exercises to understand what you really want to do. These "awareness exercises," while often geared towards careers, are certainly valid for all other areas of your life.

Once you have found your real dream, it is time to do something about it. The best way to make your dream a reality is to find a mentor. A mentor relationship is something that will form your entire path towards your dream, so you must choose your mentor carefully. This should be someone who has already accomplished, or is a long way towards accomplishing the dream you have. You should also be comfortable with this person, and able to work with them. Do not expect this service for free -- a mentor's time should be compensated, because your mentor is taking time away from his or her own opportunities to nurture you.

The next, and probably most important thing, is to follow your mentor's advice -- it doesn't do you any good to find a mentor if they try to help you, and you consistently throw up roadblocks to your own dreams! In that case, you need to take a hard look about whether this is a dream you really want to achieve. If so, then you may need counseling to understand why you are hindering your own progress.

Your mentor will often demand some form of accountability. If this is the case, you must keep up with it. In my own case, I must make a monthly list of smaller goals (as they change) and what I have done to achieve them. My mentor reviews this list with me each month, and points out possible areas of resistance I need to overcome. If you do not keep up with your accountability, your mentor may cut you loose and turn his or her attention to someone else, who is willing to do what it takes to accomplish their dreams. No matter how difficult the goals, you must be willing to dedicate yourself to them totally and not allow yourself to be distracted by shorter-term pleasures.

Another thing to bear in mind is that if dreams were easily achievable, everyone would be living their dreams instead of settling for something else. In some cases, your dream may seem nonsensical to others. In other cases, your dream may seem unrealistic (usually to people who have not even attempted your dream). You cannot let yourself be discouraged, even though it may take decades to accomplish your dream. Again, from my own example, I decided when I was ten years old, after taking a world history class, that I wanted to live in Europe. Everyone told me that Europe was very expensive, and that learning foreign languages was difficult. So I saved every dime I could from babysitting, from allowances, from chores, and every time my friends wanted to see a movie, or go out for pizza, I said, "I can't afford it." I studied foreign languages in school as if my life depended on it (my dream certainly did). And twenty-five years later, I had saved $35,000 and decided that I had enough money to at least live in Europe for a while, and a few months later, I was living there. This worked because if your single goal for twenty-five years is to do something, and you do not let anything stand in your way, or become more important, you are bound to accomplish your goal! 

With these ideas in mind, you should be able to take concrete steps towards making your dream a reality. I wish you everything you have ever dreamed!

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Comments

Mar 27, 2011 10:26pm
dreamaker
This is a great article CG. I had dreams when I was young. Some I accomplished and wished I never had. Others I still chase to this day. Your article has reminded me that I havn't been running after them nearly fast enough. Thanks for the BUMP! Thumbs up on this one from a perpetual dreamer.
Mar 28, 2011 9:34am
Deborah-Diane
Excellent article, and good reminder to all of us that we can make our dreams come true. I always wanted to be a writer. It took me a while, but now I'm earning money from my writing, and getting to share my opinions and knowledge with others. You're right. At some point we all have to take charge of our lives.
Mar 28, 2011 1:26pm
Venetia
I lOVE this article. Thank you!
Apr 1, 2011 11:12am
Chomina
CG, wonderful article! Writing has always been a dream of mine that I never focused on until now. Wish your Europe offer was still available, because I totally would take you up on it! Ha ha!
Apr 1, 2011 3:34pm
Lynsuz
Thumbs up from me as well, great article.
May 2, 2011 2:05pm
footloose
Thank you for this check-in-on-my-dreams article. I find it quite useful, and honor my dreams.
May 7, 2011 1:45pm
DarleneMcFarlene
This is a wonderful article! I have always dreamed of writing and have done very little with it until a few years ago when someone reminded me that if writing is what I really wanted then, I had to make it happen. We need to have confidence in our dreams and in ourselves. Thank you for the pep talk!
May 8, 2011 3:08am
stella1
my dream is to be in place of KATE MIDDLETON.. will i fulfill this dream... I love WILLIAM..
May 9, 2011 5:02pm
2enjoylife8
Yes, dreams are what we really want and will do something about, not just say, "Oh wouldn't it be nice if...". I like how you've made that clear.
May 9, 2011 5:46pm
infob0724
It is never too late for your dreams to come true. Great article.
May 14, 2011 10:33am
Trader26
This is a great article! Taking massive action towaard your dreams is the only way you will reach them. Stop saying " It would be nice if..." and start asking yourself "What actions have I taken towards my dreams today?"
May 18, 2011 2:35pm
weianow
dreams can come true. I dreamed of training a horse my whole childhood years. It wasn't until I was 50 that the opportunity arose and all the wheels clicked into place. For me it wasn't so much making it happen as it was taking the opportunites when they arose. Many people ignore the opportunity--as you mention in your article (Europe and the opportunity to go there.
May 22, 2011 9:26am
snowman
Nice thought provoking article! You will never achieve your dreams if you don't take action.
May 23, 2011 9:59am
kigozi
I think we spend a lot of time dreaming about other personalities that we loose who we actually are, and then we forget to take positive action. This article is spot-on.
Aug 15, 2012 6:41pm
wordspeller
I like this article. Everyone needs to be finding and living their dreams - after all, this is what life is all about!!! For me, I find big goals feed momentum whereas little goals do not do much for motivation at all. I personally believe that using a person's own intuition is just as important as getting the right mentor. Having someone else telling you what to do is not the same as having the 'inner knowing' of what is instinctly right for you to do.
Oct 3, 2012 12:17am
huffmancharles
Every one should chase his/her dream without fearing about the result. Then at-least you would have no regret of not trying.
Mar 19, 2014 9:07pm
JeffHolmquist
That's very enjoyable reading and gives a lot of food for thought. Yes, yes, those people did not REALLY dream of going to Europe -'cause you called their bluff. They really meant that "someday when all problems are solved, $$ are available for most anything, and OTHER dreams are accomplished - now they can seriously think about Europe.

You wrote this in very understandable English. No one can fail to grasp the impeccable logic. An excellent article.

Jun 3, 2014 10:02pm
Jdubz
Wow! I absolutely love any type of inspirational work- Maybe because I'm at a point in my life where I still have a lot of dreams I want to see fulfilled. Anyways, great article! And even more noteworthy is your ability to chase your dreams for 25 years! I'm truly inspired! Thank you!
Jul 22, 2014 11:04am
jmastbrook
Love this article CG. Too many people just read or dream about what they want to do but never take that next step. I'm willing to bet this will help more than a few of us move forward to where we want to be.
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