This American life creates the ability for a lot of people to get most things they need and many things they want. In some ways, this creates a very likeable, easygoing personality, but it can affect a person when important matters are at hand. This article is going to use the example of marriage to look at one area where this may be the case.
Marriage is in fact an fundamental institution in our society. There are many keys to making the relationship healthy and happy, but remembering the first commitment is one of the most significant. Despite sky-high divorce rates and arguments in this country over what marriage is, it remains an important matter. One could argue that the very fact these discussions surrounding marriage are so intense, only demonstrates that point. For many, it might not be the first commitment made. Is it, however the first one you will take seriously?
THE INITIAL PROMISE
During a wedding ceremony you are making a promise to a another human being. Perhaps more people should take recognition of “this is for real” type of thinking. It is scary to consider that. On the flip side, it can also be a thought of stepping into something worth putting your whole being into. Of course that will be challenged over the years, most worthwhile things are. And yes it will be a process that you will fail multiple times. That doesn't always have to stop you from re-committing that frame of thought over the years. But one thing will always remain true - that you still stand before God, your spouse, and family/friends. When you vow to love someone through sickness and health, and rich or poor, do you know what you're getting into?
At a point in the wedding, the Priest or Pastor might read a verse from the bible. It is from the book of Ephesians. It reads as follows:
"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." (Ephesians 5:22-25)
The first part of that verse is what usually causes dispute or controversy. It is asks the wife to submit to the husband. The second part is not usually too spoken of. It asks the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church. This is overlooked and worth expanding on more. Consider that Christ loved the church so much that he died on the cross. Husbands lay down your lives for your wives. That is the final challenge and sacrifice. When taken literally it could be safe to say that many husbands would say "yes if the situation arose, I feel like I would die for my wife." Of course that is an extreme situation. The every day challenge is laying down your lives for your wives. Are you laying down that golf game, or that night out? Are you laying down things that are harmful or toxic to the relationship? Are you laying down your priorities? Are you forgiving with a genuine heart?
These are some of the everyday challenges. They are also key points in maintaining a healthy and happy marriage. Relationships are work. There is not really question about that, so it's crucial to keep up the work. Statistics are daunting when it comes to marriage, but it is not necessarily predestined for you to become a statistic.