The art of conversation is a delicate one that requires that the artist possesses the ability to handle people with delicate care. The individual who can master this art will find himself in the intersection of more opportunity, more friends, better income and more happiness in relationships. The mastery of conversation requires the ability to put your own desires and thoughts aside for a few moments and genuinely take interest in the desires and thoughts of another person. How many times in your life has someone been talking to you while in your head you are really just thinking about what you are going to say next. Or on the flip side how many times have you been talking to someone else and realized that they are nodding their heads and affirming your statements with their lips but you can tell that their mind is far from processing what you are saying. They might be thinking about what they are going to cook for dinner tonight, or a bill that they have to pay tomorrow. No matter the thought, you know that it has no connection to what you are talking about.
The reason why most people can't master the art of conversation is because they don't take the time to listen. You have heard the old saying that "you have two ears and one mouth so listen more and talk less." This is a saying for a reason. Thousands of years ago before the birth of Christ live a man named King Solomon (you may have heard of him), the wisest man who ever walked the earth. He wrote the book of proverbs in which he said "Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive."
So few people take the time to really listen to people anymore, that the rare individual who does, finds himself at a distinct advantage in all human contact. Though achieving this is not an easy feat, it takes a continual biting of the tongue, disciplining of the mind and retuning of the heart to truly look beyond your own immediate wants and needs. The individual who can truly listen and understand others will win the hearts of many, and have the world at his fingertips. It is a skill that employers, business people and people of influence in all circles are looking for, and may not even know it.
Be a better listener., and you will be a better conversationalist.