Suddenly finding yourself single is never easy, especially after a long term relationship; and over overanalysing the break down and constantly replaying the “what ifs” will only make it harder for you to move on and let go. So what can you do to speed up the recovery of your broken heart and make it easier for you to get your life back on track?

1. Delete, Delete, Delete….

If you are still “friends” with your Ex via social net working sites, the best thing you can do is delete them. Seeing status updates about how much they are enjoying the single life and seeing photos of them tagged lip locked with various random strangers will only make the pain worse. What you shared is now over, so you, or the world no longer need to see it. Set your status as single, remove their friendship and if you can handle it, any pictures you have online. Reset your passwords and update your privacy settings. If you still remain friends with your Ex in the real world, then all you should need is their phone number, But this is also a good one to delete to avoid post break-up drink dialling. The last thing you want is to be having one last fling for old times sake just for it to all be over again in the morning. A clean break should mean just that, without it, you will be holding on far longer than you need to and your heart will never fully mend.

2. Don’t party too hard.

Although your first instinct may be to hit the town and show the world what your made of, over partying is not the answer. Over indulging in alcohol and having too much single sex, will not only be bad for your wellbeing in the short term, but could also be damaging for your health. Now you are single you still need to be looking after yourself, your health and your wealth, especially in the first few weeks. Take some me time to do things you enjoy, go to the cinema or for a meal with friends, Have a few pamper nights and maybe a new hair style and new outfit. Or maybe even get your friends together for a camping weekend away. Give yourself some space and distance to think about you, maybe even sign up for a college course or take up a hobby. Time for yourself is one of the most important things you can do to help yourself get over the break up.

3. Let it all out.

It may take a while, but at some point you may feel like just breaking down in tears and letting everything pour out. Build yourself a network of people you can talk to, who will listen to you and be there for you. This is in fact a good part of the healing process. Having people around you will help you process what’s happening, lift your sprits and help you move on. What you had, you once considered special so it is important to grieve but to also learn from what happened. Realising what made the relationship break down and learning from your mistakes will help you in future relationships. You will know what went wrong last time so you can avoid it happening again. Try thinking about the positive things the end of the relationship has brought you and what you could do to make the next one better. Thinking about the positives rather than the negatives will make the whole thing seem a lot less harsh than what it is.

4. There are more fish in the sea.

Sometimes after a break up, you may feel like you will never be in a relationship again, and the truth is you shouldn’t be, not until you are fully free from your Ex. Only when you have fully let go should you start looking to date again, and when you do, try to take things slowly. Make sure you get to know the person a little bit before deciding on a date, and keep your options open. Maybe go on a few dates with different people to get you used to talking and mixing with new people, you don’t have to commit to anything just be safe and take your time. Enjoy their company and take things further only when you think its right in both your head and your heart. It might be all to easy to fall in love with the first person you meet, but if you rush things to much you will only end up hurt again. Relax and enjoy this new chapter in your life.

And finally…..6 reasons why it is great to be single

Having the whole bed to yourself so you can lay star shaped and have all of the duvet.

Being able to spend as long as you like in the bathroom…hour long bubble bath anyone?

You are free to do what you want without having to justify it to anyone….so yes, you can have the over priced Laura Ashley lamp shade and you can paint your bedroom fuchsia pink!

You suddenly have a lot more money…with only yourself to spend it on, why not treat yourself?

You can watch as much trashy TV as you like as there is no more arguments over the remote and the xbox has finally left the building!

It is now finally ok spend the whole of Sunday in your pyjamas, completely make-up free, hair a mess and to be as lazy as Sundays were made for….bliss.