Genes not Jeans
Almost everyone is familiar with the term "Mom Jeans," it refers to the high wasted, unattractive denim dungarees popular with women in the 1980s. But not many people are familiar with the term "Mom Genes," which not only denotes a biological predisposition for becoming a mother, but also describes some of the traits a majority of mothers have in common. Unlike mom jeans, these genes will never go out of style.
The evidence substantiating the theory of the Mom or Mommy gene was originally discovered by a doctrinal student and her colleagues at Harvard Medical School. During an experiment, they noticed that mother mice were ignoring their newborn litters. The mothers appeared unaffected while their newborns were scattered around the cage shivering and squeaking uncontrollably, while starving to death. This differed drastically from the conventional, where mothers would round up their offspring to feed, lick, and nurture them.
The mice that ignored their newborns lacked a gene called fosB. It was later discovered that this gene was partly responsible for the function of neurons in an area of the brain that adjusts hormones related to maternal behavior. In addition, other genes were also found to have an impact on the maternal instincts of mice. Researchers found when the genes Peg1/Mest and Peg3 were disabled, the results were similar to those mice lacking the fosB gene. Both the Peg1 and Peg3 genes influence how oxytocin (known as the "love hormone") is processed in the brain.
Genes for Every Mom
While not every mom wears the same size jeans, the fabric is still identical. Such is the case with mom genes, the feelings are the same but the way moms show these feelings are different. The following are typical feelings moms have:
Happiness: From their first smile, and for the rest of their lives, moms want their children to be happy. When they are babies, if they are fussy or upset, a mother will do everything within her power to calm them down and make them happy. As they grow older, a mother's heart breaks if her child is teased, excluded, or bullied, and a mother will do everything within her power to correct the situation. Even when children become adults, if they hurt, their mother also hurts, and sometimes she probably hurts even more than the child. A mother would sacrifice anything and everything to help her hurting children, and when her children are happy she is happy.
Safety: From the moment a child can comprehend, mothers teach them about safety. They warn them not to get too close to the flames in the kitchen or to stay clear of the oven when it is hot. A mother will teach her children to cross the street at the crosswalk and she will hold her child's hand tight when they are in a public place. Mothers will admonish their children and remind them over and over, and over again, not to talk to strangers. When children are older and begin to drive, moms will always remind them to lock their car doors, put on their seatbelts, drive safely, and always park in a safe and well lit area. When they are adults, if they travel, a mother will anxiously wait for notification that her child is safely at his or her destination and also when they return home. In addition, just as a mom breathes a sigh of relief when her children are born healthy, she also breathes a sigh of relief when she knows her children are safe.
If the Genes Don't Fit Don't Quit
Just as you would not throw out your favorite jeans because they no longer fit, you should not get discouraged if you don't necessarily fit the mom gene model. Mothers come in all shapes and sizes and their parenting styles are different, however, that doesn't mean they love their children any less. For example, I read a story about a mother who allowed her 9-
Sometimes, however, the mom genes are seemingly nowhere to be found, such as when mothers abuse their children. Does that mean those mothers don't have the gene or that, for whatever reason, they have suppressed the genes to the point it appears they don't have them? I think the latter is more accurate, and I also believe that if children are in an abusive home, they should be taken out of that home and placed in a safe place until the parents get help.
If you need help with anger or other issues get it now! Find a therapist, counselor, or seek help from your local church or synagogue, a majority of these institutions offer parenting classes and/or counseling.
Just as many moms dream of fitting into the same jeans they wore when they were younger, they also dream about the life their children will have. Mothers imagine a life filled with joy, health, and happiness for their children. They want their children to have the best education, marry the best mate, and have the best life. Mothers dream that their children will have a better life than they did and they do everything within their power, including doling out the dreaded advice, beginning with the words "When I was your age . . ." to their children's usual chagrin. In short, mothers (and fathers) always want the best for their children. That is their dream (gene).
Mom genes, something all mothers have in common.
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