Moving From a Young Adult to a Mature Adult?
How do you know when a young adult becomes a mature adult? Moving from adolescence to adulthood is one thing. But what are the signs during this transition?
Adolescence brings about its own set of problems and challenges because of all the physical, mental and emotional changes that occur during adolescence. It is fun, challenging for teenagers and an emotional fair ride, all in one day. Knowing the signs will help to see when and how your young adult matures.
Adolescence is about adjusting to becoming a mature adult, ready for life and all the realities that can escape us in childhood. If of course, we received good enough parenting. Maturing starts with testing set boundaries within the household. The teenage years are about Learning how to set personal limits that contain own set of rules, values and beliefs that we then carry through our own lives.
Adolescence is about learning how to take responsibility for personal behavior, thoughts and feelings. This is not an easy transition, a testing time for many. Not just the young adult who is still a child within, but the whole family.
Your patience is tested and there will be times where conflicts will occur. Your own ability to control your anger is challenged when you have a teenager living at home. This is all part of not just the teenagers learning but a perfect opportunity to develop your self-awareness and maturity. Sadly, there are no time limits with maturity and adulthood. It is an individual thing; there are many adults in the world that have yet to reach maturity.
A tool I created while working with families and young people the Immature Adolescent vs. Mature Adolescent gage.
The Immature Adolescent
A – Attitude with everyone
D Does not seem to care
L – Lazy and unresponsive
E – Emotional time bomb
S - Stressed out all the time
C – Crying a lot
E – Everyone else is to blame
N- Nothing is ever good enough
C – Cost is not an issue “I have what I want”
E – Everyone, even the world owes them a living
The Mature Adolescent
A – Accepting of others
D Does things to help without complaining
L – Likes giving and receiving compliments
E – Emotional understanding
S – Sympathetic to family as well as peers
C – Caring and loving those that love and care for them
E – Empathic to the problems of others
N- Nice to people that deserve it
C – Courageous and Courteous
E – Everyone has the right to disagree and have an opinion
This helped a lot of the families and young people. It helped parents to watch their own reactions as immature or mature when dealing with difficult behavior. Also assisted young people to gauge where they were and how far they had to go, giving them areas to focus on when communicating with their parents. It also highlighted the level of maturity for parents, helped them to look at areas that needed improving.
Maturity will not happen overnight and for some may never completely happen. It is also very normal for mature adults to slip in and out of child mode now and again. Vital however, that this never happens when communicating and reprimanding your children and teenagers.