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Navigate through the different stages of breakup

By Edited Apr 15, 2016 1 1

Breaking up is never easy for either sexes but sometimes it's inevitable. Are you in a hard dilemma of whether to have a clean cut to your woe relationship now or continue to be suffered in silent and hope things might just changes for the better? Sometimes, breaking up is the correct solution if not the only solution. Let me go through the recovery of different stages of breaking up process with you and how you navigate passed them.

1st Day After the dump day
Your emotions range from despair to range to intense love and hatred.

What he do?
You are more likely to funnel your negative emotions into physical aggression. You get irritate easily and trying to pick a fight. So your are more likely to punch a wall and be vocal with others.

Hit the gym instead. Cardio and resistance training reduce anger, fatigue and tension. Channel all your anger into strength!

What she do?
You weep like nobody business. Women cry five times as often as men do and they feel better after the weeping.

If you are the one who made the call, don't let her tears relent you. If she ended it, her crying doesn't mean she's having second thoughts.

A week after the dump day
At this point, you still could not accept the fact of the breakup. You will experience elevated activity in several of your brain regions, including those that control obsessive thinking, anger suppression, and output of dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with risk taking.

What he do?

You will exhibit verbal non-fluencies if you keep on rapping about the break to your friend.


Don't dwell on it. Hit the road with a pal or engaged yourself in a sports activity. Men recover by doing things with peers, not by talking it out.

What she do?

She settles in with her friends and reply on close social networks to talk about their breakup. All your secrets are punch lines, your dirty habits, your fatal flaws and your sexual prowess panned.


This is how her friends see you now. Brace yourself for their slicing glares and icy shoulders!

A month after the dump day

You began to pick up from the slump and you are as happy as those still in a relationship.

What he do?

You tried to call your exes at least once and try to convalesce with them.

Vent in a journal and keep it to yourself. Most men feel worse after making contact with their ex!

What she do?

Even if she called if off, she's likely to blame herself for a breakup, and coupled with loneliness, makes her misses you more.


Keep your distance. Play 'friend' too soon and you risk prolonging her pain and yours.

Half a year after the dump day
You reached acceptance when you've gone longer without thinking of your ex. You feel normal and brimming with confidence.

What he do?

You returned to a state of equilibrium. Men achieve emotional calm a year before women.


You're ready to swan dive back in the dating pool and scout for your new 'prey'!

What she do?

You try to seek closure and move on. You start to tell yourself that 'I never love him,' or showing you're better off without him.

Either way, kills his ploy with kindness. Wish him well.

Like it or hate it, breaking up is just another life cycle that almost everyone needs to go through. Everyone handle breakup differently and hope the above information may give you an insight of what's to expect.



Feb 24, 2009 3:43am
Great article !!
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