Online Dating Has Taken Hold
There used to be a time when internet dating was only for people who were desperate to find a partner and love; people who couldn't "cut it" in the real world, who didn't have what it takes to succeed in the competitive world of dating. Over the years, online dating has evolved from being a source of comfort for lonely men and women who can't find it in the real world, and from being a tool used by both well and ill-intentioned men looking for a certain kind of bride, to an invaluable means of developing real connections and forging solid relationships which have the potential to evolve into real love and lasting partnerships.
Dating online is, unarguably, a very modern matchmaking tool which has taken a big chunk out of the age-old practise of being introduced to a complete stranger by a mutual friend or getting set up on blind dates by a well-meaning family member. It has now more than doubled the frequency of meeting potential partners at a bar, a club, or even a coffee shop or the supermarket. It is, without a doubt, a very effective means of maintaining constant communication and sustaining a long-distance relationship.
Internet Dating Has Experienced Exponential Growth
Online dating increased by over 20% in 2012 alone, and this means of meeting someone in hopes of finding a suitable life partner is particularly popular among person's over 55 years of age. Generally, the people using internet dating services are those who have at least one, and often several, failed relationships in their past. They are worn out with the usual dating game and seeking a different, easier and perhaps more reliable means of finding Ms. or Mr. Right.
The reality is that you can meet more people online on a good dating site in an evening than you are likely to meet in several months by relying on friends or family to join you up. And the people you do meet can be simply and politely weeded down to those who are of real interest, without having to disappoint both them and the person who introduced you to any great degree. In short, it is a simpler and much easier way to meet people who are obviously interested in being met, and who clearly have a relationship in mind.
With that in mind, people are taking to online dating sites in droves, knowing that their window of opportunity to meet a great mate as been greatly enlarged. And not only are people now meeting dozens of potential partners in their own neck of the woods, they've started to set their sites far, far afield. Why settle for the boy or girl next door, when now you can easily find and meet exotic men and women from all parts of the world?
Dating Online is Made for Cross Cultural Relationships
Online dating has made long-distance and cross-cultural relationships a realistic and very attractive option for many. Two people each living on the other side of the world can still communicate regularly via the various messaging tools available online: email, chat, and video-chat. There are many decent language translation tools that one can get at a reasonable cost or for free if they are interested in meeting someone who speaks a different language; in fact, the best dating websites offer this feature for free to their members.
In the not too distant past if you were attracted to members of other cultures in distant lands the only means of satisfying your itch to meet and get to know such people, in order to hopefully find a great life mate among them, was to embark upon a major, and incredibly expensive, journey to distant and foreign lands. Nowadays, with the aid of online dating sites, especially those specialty sites that cater to introducing westerners to specific cultures, people can simply pour themselves a hot coffee or a nice glass of wine, plop themselves down in their favourite chair at home, and meet thousands of women or men who might satisfy their desire for a lifemate from that particular ethnicity.
Of course eventually you'll still have to make that journey, but now you can plan it knowing there is someone (or several someones) who fit your idea of a perfect match, and who is equally interested in you. An American man can meet attractive Latinas, Russians, Asians Africans, etc., without ever leaving home. An American woman can meet men of every race, color, culture or nation on her computer in her living room.
Little wonder that online dating is becoming so popular.
Once Formed, Mixed Race Relationships Require Real Work
None of that is to say that Cross Cultural relationships are now a piece of cake. Sure you can now meet and greet thousands of the men or women of your dreams, but once you've narrowed the many down to the one, the hard work begins.
In so many ways, online dating has opened many more opportunities for people to find an ideal partner and love. But while dating websites have become an invaluable means of connecting potential partners, the tasks of finding a suitable mate, developing and nurturing a relationship, and finding happiness and love still entail the good, old-fashioned hard work that, more or less, reflect traditional courting/mating practices (depending on the culture(s) of those involved).
The various internet communication tools and language translation programs make constant communication possible; but two people still have to put in the time and effort to learn how to effectively communicate with each other. They have to be willing to spend enough time together to get to know each other better. While these tools cannot replace the experience and value of being together physically, they still provide an excellent way for people to develop and maintain a meaningful connection on which a solid foundation for a long-term and more serious relationship can be built. But they still have to do the work that is always required when one is dating or in any relationship, whether across the street or around the world.
As it is in the real world of dating and relationships, honesty, respect, faithfulness, patience, and understanding are still critical to the forging of strong and resilient bonds. In fact, these values often play a more important role in the success of online dating and long-distance and/or cross-cultural relationships than they do in the traditional context because being in such a relationship involves higher risks and requires a bigger investment in terms of time, effort, and emotional and mental involvement.
As it is with any new opportunity, one must work hard to make the most of it. Online dating gives people plenty of new opportunities and very valuable tools to help them get the most out of these opportunities. But they can't simply click here and there, sit back and relax, and wait for a beautiful relationship to grow and love to blossom. They still have to plant a seed, and regularly till the soil and water the plant. Online dating involves both modern and traditional practices, modern tools and traditional hard work.