I have often wondered how long its been since our school board committee actually sat down and looked at the dress code. I don't know how it is for the rest of the country, but for my area...well, I'd say its been a long time!
I have two daughters, age 13 and 16. Now, I am not a total rebel with complete disregard for the dress code, but some things are just plain ridiculous. My 13-year-old has a small lip ring. When attending school she puts in a clear ring that isn't seen unless you are standing on top of her. She's had this since summer. When school started back in August she did get a couple of verbal warnings but it was really no big deal and nothing else was really said about it. She's also not the only student, there are several students with facial piercings. And now, with 3 months of school left, the school has decided this is an issue and began giving her detention. This really bothered me so I spoke with her teacher, who informed me that the piercing is not an issue in her class but she can't speak for outside of her classroom. So what is the big deal? Well, I'm told it's a distraction to learning. Okay, honestly this is 2012. Who hasn't seen a facial piercing at this point? And I'm pretty sure if by some slim chance you haven't seen one, that you are not going to be so amazed that you can't stop staring at it! So back to the teacher meeting, I was basically warned that she may get into trouble in the future if she did not remove it. I nicely pointed out that I feel that the 'lack' of clothing covering other female students is more likely to be a huge distraction than a simple clear lip ring. And I don't see these students being sent home or having to change clothing. She agreed but reminded me that she has no control over outside of her classroom.
My 16-year-old has a tiny nose ring. She is also going through these same problems at her school.
They are A and B students, have great attendance, and have NEVER been in any kind of trouble. These days a piece of jewelry is just that, a piece of jewelry. It isn't and shouldn't be such an issue. I realize it's in the handbook that we got at the beginning of the year, and I'm not trying to be a total disrespectful parent. I just think it's really silly and that there are more important things to worry about, like helping students pass or focusing on the drug/alcohol events taking place in the school bathrooms. It's a piercing, it doesn't make her a delinquent!
So my suggestion to you if you are having these problems with your child's school, is to start a petition and get as many signatures as you can and take it to the next school board meeting. Ask for clear answers to questions such as when was the last time the dress code was updated, or exactly what is the issue with piercings. A great place to start is http://www.ipetitions.com , which offers a free online petition that you can customize and share on social networking sites.