Getting Some Perspective
It's true! you know the old adage...Someone tells you not to think about pink elephants and what happens? Pink elephants take over your brain. They are everywhere that you look and even the words... pink elephants, pink elephants, are chanting through your head, all just because we are told NO! Whatever you do don't think about pink elephants! It's the way the human brain works. We don't like deprivation and the more you focus on not doing something the more likely you are to actually do it. This is the reason that diets don't work. Even if you can ward of the deprivation issues for a short time, time doesn't make it any easier.
What We Do To Our Brain When We Diet
What Our Brain Likes
When someone drops a mammoth task on your desk the feeling is overwhelming. Look at all that work and I haven't even started yet. This kind of scenario is often a good reason to make people procrastinate. They feel so overwhelmed that they don't know how to start, so they don't, they keep thinking about it instead. If however, the big task is split into smaller easier to digest portions, small steps at a time, with no time constraint and the freedom to approach it from whatever angle makes you feel comfortable, wouldn't that make life a whole lot easier? The same principle can be utilised for helping to think yourself thinner by taking small, comfortable steps and praising yourself when you do something beneficial...no matter how small it may be, which actually leads us to the next point...
We often only focus on what's wrong. With our brain stuck in the negativity mode, we are quick to pull ourselves up on our faults, but unfortunately rather slack when it comes to noticing our good points. This includes any achievement no matter how minuscule it may seem. Turn it around. When it comes to something like losing weight, start to notice anything you do that you know is leading you in the right direction. The little bit of extra exercise you put in today because you vacuumed the house. You made an effort to climb the stairs because you had the time, even if it was slowly...it's still a positive that you should praise yourself for. Any small effort or achievement all tallies up to one big accomplishment.
"One thing is for certain and that is nothing is for certain" ~ unknown
Our daily life and routine rarely stays exactly as we planned. Too many external things come into the equation and we need to be able to change with the days, weeks or years as they unfold. When we are not flexible and find we can't live up to our lofty expectations that we set for ourselves, it leaves us feeling like we have failed.
What Our Brain Doesn't Like
Step Two - Now think of a food that you really love...Luscious chocolate cake, ice-cream, roast chicken...whatever really gets your mouth-watering and make sure you visualize it in your mind. Then do the same as before and tell yourself that you can never have that food ever again, for your whole life. Now how do you feel? Apparently many people report feeling tense, anxious, depressed, angry and resentful. Our brain doesn't like this thought at all. This thought and feeling is what Lavinia Rodriguez Phd (author of Mind Over Fat Matters) calls Psychological Deprivation. We won't die if we don't have that food... but it almost feels like we will. Kind of sounds a little similar to dieting, don't you think?
Mind Over Fat Matters
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The Role Of Habitual Learning
Once... at some stage in our lives, we all used to be natural eaters. We didn't think about the consequences of what or how much we ate. Social conditioning over time changed that and most of us have at some stage or another had some kind of eating rules set into place. These kind of things tend to stick in our minds. Even if we are not currently dieting but we eat something that has been included in our rulebook as BAD at some stage of our life...it automatically can bring up feelings of guilt when we eat it.
It seems that we can establish the fact that depriving ourselves of something labelled as bad in our rulebook, is in turn likely to make us over indulge in that thing (for example chocolate cake) at some stage when given the opportunity...here's the equation
Rules = psychological deprivation = loss of control
Does this mean that by getting rid of the rules can reverse the cycle? It should also be noted that when we indulge in something we really love to eat, we often don't enjoy it as we should. If we are going to eat something delectably delicious (like chocolate cake), we should at least thoroughly enjoy every moment of eating it and not do it the injustice of concentrating on how bad this "evil piece of chocolate cake" is for tempting us to indulge! We very easily get into the totally wrong mind set.
No Way? Eat What You Want?
Think Thin: Live Thin
I think most of us have an idea that weight loss is linked to psychological aspects. The tricky thing is understanding how to make your brain work for you and not against you. Like trying to meditate doesn't bring about successful meditation and "pink elephants"... well you can stand in front of a mirror and say I'm thin till the cows come home but there has to be something deeper than that for it to become ingrained in the neural pathways. You have to trigger the change internally not just on the surface. Visualization is a good way to help kick start this into action. See yourself in what you want to wear, how you want to look and how you want to feel...but one of the biggest things you can do, is to pull yourself up on any negative thoughts that cross your mind. Not only the ones putting yourself down because of weight...anything! Exchange those thoughts for positive alternatives. For example if everytime you think I hate my job, you take that thought and automatically link it to an alternative positive. If you are wanting to lose weight, you could link I hate my job to a thought and visualisation of you looking slim and fantastic in your new hip cloths that you bought with your wage.
Footnote and Disclaimer
I want to add this personal footnote as to the reason for this article as I feel it may be of benefit to some people. As a person who has always struggled with sometimes a little, sometimes a lot of extra weight, I encountered something that I couldn't really explain regarding weight loss. It was a period of about five years, that started with a blood group diet (that was of course unsustainable) but managed to budge a few kilo's. This initial weight loss continued even when I had stopped the diet. It kept going and then sustained at a healthy weight for close to 5 years. In this period I felt I was thin (even when at the beginning I wasn't). I dressed the way I wanted, felt good about the way I looked, and I really thought I could eat anything and wouldn't put on weight. This didn't mean I ate crazily, and I also walked regularly for exercise. The difference was that I just stopped worrying about what food I put into my mouth. I didn't doubt at all ever, that I couldn't remain as this perfect size me. It is only with in the last year that I have slipped out of that mental zone, and suddenly found myself with a few extra pounds, hence why this article has been written. It was whilst searching for answers about what I experienced, that I found information about "thinking thin". I really believe that it points to what happened to me. Personally, I think it seems to make a lot of sense. As someone who believes in and knows the strength of our own minds and the benefits of turning negatives into positives, I believe this style of thinking works for everything not only weight loss.
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