Q: We're about to begin PT our son, should we get training pants straight away?

A: Much better not straight away because of frequent accidents in early days, unless the pants themselves are incentive for your son. Also laundry will multiply if utilizing cloth pants. Stick with diapers until some success achieved then switch over a period of good results in a relaxed way. It's usually simpler to develop on success.

Potty training is not a procedure that works overnight. Having your child use training pants immediately at the start might have some negative effects on the child. Accidents will occur quite often throughout the earlier stages of training and children might feel some humiliation when accidents often occur in their training pants. Diapers contain the mess and the feeling of being dirty and wet is a lot less. Training pants have a thin layer that's designed to hold some or most of the liquid in when an accident happens but is not as effective as diaper absorption.

Frequent subjection to the feeling of becoming uncomfortable in the early stages may result in unwillingness to cooperate throughout the potty training process. Sticking to diapers until some success has been achieved will save the child the initial discomfort and could be much more convenient for parents in regards to cleaning up.

Q: We have just started potty training and our son refuses to go back to diapers and insists on pants all the time even though he is having lots of accidents and is walking around wet and worse!

A: Do not force the diapers and support him all the way through it even if it will mean putting up with accidents. It is good that your son is expressing his preferences with regard to his own potty training. Reduce accidents by encouraging normal potty use. Dress him in quickly removed clothing (and easily washed) and watch his body language for signs of imminent soiling. Avoid locations where toileting is not possible and suggest disposable training pants on some occasions. Always carry a change of clothes and don't get upset when accidents occur. If he does not make progress in time agree a compromise of disposable training pants until the scenario improves.

Despite the accidents, it is a step in the correct direction. Even if he walks around dirty and wet for a time he will eventually learn to that it is simpler and more comfortable to make use of the potty. Following a routine will help the child discover quicker. Although it is extra effort to have to clean up and avoid going places that are inconvenient during this period it is worth it. His unwillingness to go back to diapers shows his awareness to potty training and his readiness and willingness to go through the procedure.

Q: My son refuses to let us clean him right after he uses the potty. He does not do a correct job himself, what can we do?

A: Do not force the issue as it may make him withhold the potty visit entirely. Initially, try to teach him the way to clean himself correctly utilizing a dolly or cuddly toy and let him practice on it. Proper technique might take a while to be learned but in the meantime ask him to let you check him periodically after he has cleaned himself and praise him even if its not ideal. Then do an additional clean up at bath time or before bed.

It's also a good idea to make clean up much more entertaining and fun. Sing songs or make up a song particularly for this occasion. Make cleaning time play time to decrease resistance. Cleaning your son instantly is really a practice of great hygiene. Leaving your him dirty following accidents may result in bacterial infections and cross contamination to others in the household.

Q: Our son is terrified of the flushing toilet. The fear is ruining our PT time!

A: This is really a typical concern that can sabotage potty training success. Forcing the child to confront a fear like this head on is not a great approach and might turn fear into phobia. For now leave the flushing until your son has left the room. Then over time let him get used to the noise from a distance, then from the doorway and so on until he can stand beside the toilet. When he is prepared he can pull lever himself. Also the sight of items disappearing down the drain can be upsetting in itself. Once more be supportive and allow the child time to get accustomed to the idea. It might be simpler to explain what exactly is happening to the waste and let the child bid it farewell! You may even let the child practice flushing with out the actual waste but just with tissue paper. Make sure the child is aware this game can't be played with car-keys or dollar bills!

Kids are very resilient. They can adapt rapidly to their environment and stressful situations, much better than adults. Creating them aware that there is absolutely nothing to fear when you flush the toilet is the initial step in winning this battle. Creating flushing the toilet into a game would assist him overcome this fear. This will take a bit of time and additional effort than normal however it will pass.

Q: Our son began urinating sitting down and now won"t think about standing up. What do we do?

A: If he is able to go sitting and the rest of the training is going well then do not rush him into changing. Skills take time to develop and changing again will cause confusion. Urinating standing up is tricky and demands more coordination. If feasible demonstration ought to come from dad or another responsible male. Standing peeing into a little potty is difficult and it will be less messy if a correct toilet is used while standing on a stool/step. Help him practice hitting targets, made from tissue paper.

You may also try to make it a enjoyable game and simpler for him by using special training stickers or target toys. These are fantastic tools in encouraging boys to use the potty and even practice their aim. The stickers are usually placed inside the potty or toilet and the boy tries to hit them with the “pee-pee”. This activity won't only make him much better in aiming the urine stream but may also be a encouragement for quicker potty training. These can be bought in any children"s speciality stores or on-line.

Q. Our son likes to take the potty everywhere - all round the house and in the car to go to family members - when should we make him maintain it in bathroom?

A. There is no wrong location for potty for now, when he is using it 100% then confine it to the bathroom and then gradually move him on to the main toilet (that cant be moved!). The key to a successful potty training is to make it relaxed and enjoyable for the child. Restricting him in a single location is a sure way in making the activity much less desirable for him. Allow him to have his way for a time, until he is used to it and comfortable in using his potty. Don't force the issue at the very beginning otherwise you may encounter resistance.

Q . Our son loves to use his potty but has grown to be too attached to his stool and wants to play with it, please help!

A. Some toddlers look at bowel movements as achievements to be celebrated and enjoyed - explain to him calmly that for hygienic factors this is not a great idea - don't scold or punish. These will only make him shy away from potty training.

Instead, you can get picture books and toys that you may use to explain that his stools include things like germs and bacteria that can cause illness. Attempt to do this an entertaining way rather than becoming scary!

Once your son understands that touching his stool is not a great thought, you might also interject lessons about why washing after going to the potty is also essential.

For the next few sessions distract him with another enjoyable creative activity as he completes his business and dispose of the contents or get him to help just before he gets the chance to touch, with time he will become less interested. Boys are as amazed by their stools during the early stages of potty training as they are by numerous news things in their lives. They are full of curiosity about various textures, smells and feelings. You can satisfy this urge by letting them use modelling clay or Play-doh instead.

Also consider moving him to the main toilet and letting him flush the waste away. Seeing his stools vanish into the swirling water may offer wonder and additional entertainment for him, making him more attracted to the thought of flushing down his stools rather than playing with them.

Q. When can we move our son from potty to toilet?

A. Your son might really feel more secure on a lower potty than a high toilet so let him take the lead assuming the potty is usually working well. Introduce him to the toilet on bathroom trips with you and attempt to develop his interest in the "grown-up" potty.

Allow him to initiate the move. Especially if he has a male role model, he will eventually make the initial step in utilizing the "big potty" to attempt and imitate how a grown up uses the toilet.

He should also be physically able to reach and use the toilet comfortably. Purchasing an add-on child's seat and/or a little step or ladder may be a great transition and help him to transition faster.

Q. Our son never had diaper rash when he wore diapers right through the day, now he only wears them at night and has developed a diaper rash?

A. Some infants develop a resistance to the acidic urine when they are exposed to it 24/7 in diapers but when they are exposed to the air throughout the day they can lose this resistance and they develop a rash at nighttime only. Also simply because a potty trained toddler tends to hold in his urine longer it becomes much more concentrated. Once he starts to remain drier during the night diaper rash will be a thing of the past, in the meantime treat like normal diaper rash and use a barrier cream. This will prevent new rashes from happening. Frequent diaper changing will also assist as it keeps the child's bottom as dry as possible. Also, letting his bottom get an airing out during the day time will help tremendously in drying the rashes.

Q We would like to put our child into pre-school but he is still in diapers - the new term is only a few months away should we step up the potty training?

There are schools that accept children which are not yet potty trained and will even help in the procedure. But the majority would not accept a child that is not yet trained. It is advisable to check out the schools approach and their regulations prior to enrolling your child.

For schools which are not willing to take an untrained child you've a couple of options - either postpone the schooling until he is trained even if that means missing a term or much more, or start the procedure well in time to achieve success before term starts.

Although the first choice is ideal for potty training situation, it may cause delays in the child's schooling and have other knock-on effects. However, if you go for the second option, it is important to make sure the child is really prepared to undertake the potty training. You'll be putting yourself up against a deadline, that may not suit you or your child.

Q. Our three year old child has been staying clean and dry throughout the day for almost 6 months but still wakes up wet each and every morning - are we missing something?

A. Staying dry at daytime is a lot simpler to achieve for children than at night. Many have a bladder that has not yet totally developed enough to control wetting the bed throughout deep sleep. It's actually fairly regular for a potty trained boy to occasionally wet his beds until the age of 5, some do even up to the age of 10.

The important thing is to talk to the child about it in a nice way, and to give encouragement in the process. There are also some methods that you can take to make it simpler to alter this habit or to make it simpler for you and your child.

Use bed protectors.
Use additional absorbent underwear or nighttime training pants for the child at night.
Reduce the intake of liquids just prior to sleeping.

If night bed wetting becomes much more frequent, you may need to resort to alarms that automatically sound when the child starts to wet the bed. It will awaken the child (and the parent!) from sleep. He can then be encouraged to finish his business in the toilet. Over time these incidents should become less frequent, if they do not it might be an thought to seek medical advice in case there is an underlying condition.