If you and your partner have been together for a long time, things can get a little, well, dull or routine. So, if you want to learn how to rekindle the flame, you have come to the right place. 

Plan a romantic date night either out on the town or at home, depending upon your personal preference as a couple. Send the kids to your parents’ house or hire a babysitter. In other words, do whatever it takes to get some alone time with your partner. We all need to feel “courted” and “romanced” from time to time, and arranging a date night can go a long way toward giving your romantic relationship precisely the little boost it needs.

 Leave each other little love notes all around the house: on the fridge, in each other’s gym bags, you name it. These are great little surprises and reminders of just how much you adore and value one another. 

Show your affection. You don’t have to engage in crazy PDA (public display of affection) like a pair of lovesick teenagers. But you do need to touch each other (and hug, and kiss). And of course daytime affection often tends to lead to a deeper level intimacy later on.

 Work together. Intimacy is a two-way street, and if you are trying to figure out how to rekindle the flame, it’s important that both of you be on board in the effort. Get back in touch with your own sensuality. Take a warm bubble bath; get a pedicure, rub on some body lotion. Anything you can do to please your own senses can help to reawaken your interest in being intimate with your spouse.

 If the two of you have been together for ten, twenty, thirty years or longer and you are hoping to rekindle the flames of passion that you felt decades earlier, know that relationships change, just as individuals change as we age. Your appetites for intimacy will ebb and flow over time, and that’s just fine. The important thing is to remember how much you love and care about each other and to do what works best for the two of you.