I'd Rather . . . 

Think about your relationship for one moment.  Now imagine that you could have anyone in the world as a mate, would you choose to stay with your current partner? Do you think that your partner, if given the same option, would stay with you? Now imagine being in a relationship with someone who would sincerely say "I'd rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else," and you could sincerely say the same thing. 

One of the best romantic vocalists, Luther Vandross, sang about a sorrowful character that left his mate and dated someone else, only to discover that he would rather be with his original partner. The song "I'd Rather" begins with a regretful statement; "I thought sometime alone was what we really needed, you said this time would hurt more than it helps but I couldn't see that." He continues with a remorseful declaration; "And I tried to find out if this one thing is true that I'm nothing without you. I know better now and I've had a change of heart. I'd rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else. . . ."


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I'd Rather Have Bad Times With You . . . 

Show me a couple that's been together a long time and I'll show you a couple that has gone through some bad times together. It doesn't matter how compatible you are, eventually every couple will have to deal with issues that will either break them up or make them stronger. Those couples who work through the difficult times and stay together instead of throwing in the towel will find that ironically it is those bad times that help to strengthen a relationship and make it better. 

Staying with someone during a time of poverty or illness (for richer or poorer/ in sickness and health) puts a great deal of strain on a relationship. But staying true to your commitment develops and straightens character, trust, and love. Making a vow to remain with someone till death is more than words spoken during a marriage ceremony and it is a sad and grim situation when a person leaves their mate at the moment they need them the most. 

. . . Than Good Times With Someone Else 

Looking for someone new instead of honoring a commitment and working on your relationship may seem like an easy way out. There will always be other people ready and willing to take the place of your current mate, especially if you have something they desire, like money, power, good looks, etc. But are other individuals any better than your current mate? Although you may experience good times with someone new, one thing is for sure, the good times will not last. Unfortunately, that's the time when the person who believes "the grass is always greener" will search for someone new. The individual who is always searching for the "perfect person" forgets that he/she is imperfect and that is more than likely the reason for the dissatisfaction in all of his/her relationships. This person also fails to recognize the value of a commitment or experience the reward of a relationship that has weathered the storms of life and come out better and stronger. 

I'd Rather Have The One Who Holds My Heart 

If you are in a relationship and have made the commitment to stay with someone until death, don't take that commitment lightly. Think about the time it took to make your decision to give your heart to your mate. Then, when times get tough give your relationship enough time to get better. Work on the relationship with your mate and always treat them with respect. Remember why you gave your heart to your partner and don't be too eager to take it back. Even if you cannot say it now, hopefully one day you can honestly say to your mate; "I'd rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else." 

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Love, Luther

A Collection of the Best Love Songs

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