We all experience hard times in a relation with our family, friends, or loved ones. Hard times are a part of life. Experiencing S.A.D. personally or through being around someone who has it certainly doesn't make life any easier. While Seasonal Affective Disorder can make the emotional skies grayer, but there is always a chance for the sun to come out again.

Life is chaotic and unpredictable at times. Nobody really knows what is around the bend. This may cause fear in some people or excitement in others. With so much unknown out there it is important to remember one simple rule:

You might not be able to control what happens, but you can control your reaction to that event.

This might seem bleak or isolating when you focus on the lack of control, but if you look deeper into the meaning of the rule, a sense of empowerment can be found. Think about this, if you pay attention to your reactions, you can evolve from being a Reactor to an Actor. The difference between a reactor and an actor is this. A Reactor simply responds to his/her environment. This leaves the opportunity for the world to kick a reactor around and shape that individual regardless of how it effects that person. An Actor, however, takes charge of the opportunities presented by life and shapes it accordingly. So think about this,

Would you rather take charge of life and make your mark or would you rather be led around on a Reactive chain like an animal?

Taking charge of the situation and evolving from a reactive state to an active state makes all the difference in the world.

How does this relate to Seasonal Affective Disorder? Well, if you keep this rule in mind, you can control your reactions and there by control the situation. You can control your reactions to improve the way you think, feel, and act, both toward yourself and others.

If a loved one, close friend, or anyone you care about is experiencing S.A.D. , there are several Active roles that you can play to help out that individual. By taking charge of the situation you may be able to improve the quality of life for that person.


It has been scientifically proven that the simple act of smiling causes "feel-good" chemicals to be released into the body. Since Smiling, yawning and similar behaviors are all socially mimic-able, meaning if you do it someone else is more likely to do it too (simply by watching you), the people who are around you are more likely to smile too. This means that you indirectly caused "feel-good" chemicals to be released into their body too!

Take a Walk-

This may be a challenge for some people with severe depression or acute seasonal affective disorder. When influenced by those problems, motivation to do anything, particularly anything physical, is a rare commodity. But if you suggest kindly and show them how it may (without making any promises) lift their spirits, they may be obliged to take a stroll with you. Although it is cold outside during the winter, even thirty minutes of natural light can change the body chemistry for the better. Plus, you and that person have some time to speak, without all the distractions of modern life.


Communication strengthens social bonds. Often times seasonal affective disorder can cause a person to become withdrawn and pessimistic of others. By simply talking about something fun or mutually interesting, these social bonds are strengthened and the feelings of separation and pessimism can be lifted or changed for the better.

These steps are good to take for all healthy to take. In times of need, taking action to help someone with one or all of these simple tasks can positively influence that person. When dealing with seasonal affective disorder, the winter is a dark time and these small actions can make the season brighter

If you are personally experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder or just feeling down it is helpful to change from a Reactor, to somebody who takes charge.