Tell Them You're Sorry

These sample victim apology letters can be used by anyone, free of charge.  Since the pages are printable, you can print them out and use them as resources and guides later. 

Have you committed a crime against a person?  Are you looking to apologize for your actions, but don’t really know the words to use to convey your message?  If so, you may want to check out the examples given in this article and tailor them to suit your personal needs and situation.  Included in this article, along with all the free samples, are reasons that people may want to write a victim apology letter.  Let’s get started with the first example.

Example 1 - Generic


      I would like to say I am sorry to you, your family, and everyone else impacted by my actions on July 11th, 2010.  I wish I could turn back the clock and undo all that happened.  If I could, I would never have hurt anyone!

     I sincerely hope you and your family can forgive me for my actions.  I am not a bad person, but I did a very bad thing.  I have hurt people that did not deserve to be hurt.  For that I am sorry.

     I accept full responsibility for my actions.  I have no solid excuses for what I did and nothing can justify my actions against you.  While I cannot undo what has happened, I can learn from it and make sure it never happens again.

I have voluntarily enrolled in anger management classes to help me cope with my issues.  I will work hard to ensure this type of thing never happens again.


With sincere sorrow,


John Doe


In this sample victim apology letter, the offender has expressed that they are sorrow for what happened and accepted responsibility for their actions.  This one is pretty generic and could use some personal touches to make it a bit more sincere.  We’ll dive into some specifics in the next ones.


Example 2 – Battery Victim Apology Letter Sample




     I would like to tell you how truly sorry I am for my actions against you on July 11th, 2010.  Nothing I can do will change what I have done. 

     On the night I assaulted you, I was under the influence of drugs.  I realize this is no excuse for my actions.  I took the drugs of my own free will, knowing the potential loss of control I could experience.  This is my fault and nobody else’s.  This is not meant to be taken as an excuse or justification for my actions.  I am simply looking to explain to you what happened; I think you fully deserve that.

     Nothing you did or said gave me reason to assault you.  You are not at fault for this incident in any way, shape, or form.  The fault rests solely on my shoulders and I take it seriously.

     I am currently in rehab.  I enrolled myself – it was not at the advice of my attorney, the courts, or anyone else.  I am working to get clean and control myself.

I deeply regret my actions and hope you are on the road to recovery from the injuries I caused you.  It is my hope that you can someday forgive me for what I did to you.




John Doe


In this sample letter of apology to a victim of a crime, the defendant or perpetrator of the crime has expressed their sorrow for specific incidents that took place.  The writer has accepted responsibility and assured the person they were not at fault.  In addition, they have told the person suffering injury what they are doing to make sure it doesn’t happen again.  In the next example, we will focus on the crime of theft.   Perhaps this one will fit your needs.


Example 3 – Sample Theft Victim Apology Letter




     I would like to tell you how sorry I am for stealing your lawnmower.  I myself have had items stolen from me in the past and know how upsetting it can be.  This should have been enough to make me think better of taking your property, but unfortunately, it did not.

     I wish I could say that I had good reasons for stealing from you.  I wish I could tell you that I stole your lawnmower to sell to pay for food for my child to eat or that I had to pay for a medical procedure for a loved one.  I wish I could tell you all this, but it would just be a lie.  I’ve done enough of that already. 

     The truth of the matter is that I was trying to take your lawnmower to sell so I wouldn’t have to work for the money.  I wish this wasn’t the case, but it is.  Nothing can justify this and I will not try to justify it.  My actions were selfish, unethical, and illegal.  I accept full responsibility for my actions.

     I will pay you for the damages done to your shed when I removed the lawnmower; that’s the least can do to try and make amends.  I will be sentenced soon and my lawyer tells me I will be eligible for work release from the jail.  I will make good on the damages sustained.  Please, simply advise me or my attorney of the estimates you get for repair.

     Again, I want to tell you I’m truly sorry for what I’ve done.  I have no excuses for my actions.  I will learn from this and move forward.  I hope to become a better person in the process.




John Doe


In this sample apology letter to a victim of a theft, the author has stated they accept full responsibility.  In fact, they have openly offered to make restitution to repair damage they have done to a shed.  This is a decent example that could be tailored to meet your needs, so you can express your sorrow for your crime.  After all, that’s what sample victim apology letters are supposed to be used for.