Self improvement and motivation techniques are not always easy to muster. Although there are a vast amount of ideals that seem relatively simple, we sometimes find that we just can't wrap our heads around the process of becoming a better person. It is that big picture mentality that overwhelms many to the point of digression. In order to enact change in ourselves in a way that will spawn positive change in our lives, we need to narrow down the scale – focusing only on that which lies right ahead of us.
It is rather easy to get swept away in 'what-ifs' and fear of not being able to live up to the expectation of the life you are trying to build. As long as there is expectation, you may find that you continually experience disappointment. Predicting a specific outcome of a particular situation can lead to devastating results. There is a belief that exists around expectation, and that belief states that it is nothing more than a premeditated resentment. Whether I am expecting a result to suit my ideal, or I am expecting something of another human being; there is a chance that things will not go the way I think they should.
When your mission of self improvement and motivation is threatened by an overwhelming need to control the outcome, you are setting yourself up for failure. In times like these, you need to identify that which you have control over and that which you do not. Example: If you are going to a job interview, the odds are pretty high that you are not the only person applying for your target position. It is for this reason that you need to be the best you can be to prove to your prospective employer that you are the most qualified person for the job.
In this situation, you have control over your appearance, your amount of preparation, your timeliness, your professionalism, and every thing else that has to do with you. Although you spent a great deal of time on creating a positive first impression, you – in reality – have no control over your interviewer's ultimate perception of you. Nor do you have control over the amount of applicants chasing after the same job, or traffic on the way, or any other possibly influential factor of the outcome that is not a source of you and your efforts.
If you place an expectation on the the belief that you aced the interview and the job is yours, you may be in grave danger. Imagine sitting at home all next week, confident that you have a job, only to get a call informing you that you have not been chosen. Because you allowed your expectation to dictate your lack of motivation to seek employment elsewhere as you awaited a decision, you are farther behind than you were.
Every effort made will not always avail results. By keeping your hopes high and your expectations low, you are allowing yourself to continually strive for better. In addition, you are able to acquire a humility that serves as a noticeable and non-threatening character trait to those around you. Don't stop taking the steps toward self improvement and motivation, and find an amazing freedom in relinquishing control of where your efforts will take you.