Love in a relationship can sometimes grow stale, especially if kids are a part of your life.  You are most focused on providing for their needs, while ignoring the relationship you have with your spouse. Finding ways to express your love or to increase lovemaking is often hard to do in relationships.  When spending time with your spouse becomes a challenge this can effect your sexual experience, which is why being creative has to become a part of your love relationship.  Giving flowers and buying chocolates is sweet and special, but more can be done to spruce up the love in your bedroom.


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Consider incorporating the use of essential oils as foreplay in your relationship.  It sounds strange, but please read on.  Essential oils are oils that are extracted from various plant materials, flowers, herbs and trees.  They have been used for many, many years because of their healing and therapeutic properties.  They differ from oils such as olive oil, vegetable oil and other fixed oils because they are volatile and evaporate when left open, but some are nontoxic, nonirritating and nonsensitizing.  These oils are extracted from the actual plant, herb or tree and safety precautions must be used when handling them.  Pure essential oils cannot be used directly on the skin; they must be diluted with a carrier oil such as olive oil, almond oils or  other carrier oils.

Each essential oil has a specific benefit when used.  Some are used as antiseptics, relaxers, antidepressants, anxiety relievers, antiviral, astringents, deodorants and many, many other uses depending on the oil used.

For the purposes of reviving your relationship and helping with lovemaking, certain essential oils are used as aphrodisiacs.  They will aid in you and your spouse’s sexual awakening, leading to more romance and a better relationship.

Check out the following 5 essential oils that can be used to bring the "heat" back into your relationship.

Cinnamon Oil

This oil is extracted from the bark of a tropical evergreen tree native to Sri Lanka.  It has a sweet, warm-spicy, powerful yet dry aroma.  Cinnamon oil is great as an antioxidant, antimicrobial, antibacterial and in cooking.  You can place 1 drop into a warm cup of water as a therapeutic aid.

In addition, you can use this oil as a sexual stimulant.  You can mix it into a carrier oil such as almond, grapeseed or olive oil and use as a massage oil.  Please do not apply it directly to the skin, and never on sensitive skin, this oil has to be diluted, and once it is, the aroma will attract your mate and increase sexual stimulation.


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Jasmine Oil

This oil is extracted from an evergreen plant that was originally from China and Northern India.   It is a fragile plant and grows up to 33 feet high, with dark green leaves and small white star shaped flowers that are picked at night because this is when the aroma is most intense.

And once picked, 1,000lbs of flowers will yield approximately 1 pound of liquid.

Jasmine oil is nontoxic, nonirritating and has been used as an antidepressant, antiseptic, sedative to ease nerves and childbirth, and as an aphrodisiac to help with sexual problems, among other uses.  The oil will help with impotence and premature ejaculation, which will help your sexual experience be enjoyable and unrushed.

Blend jasmine oil with rose, sandalwood and all citrus oils.

Nutmeg Oil

This oil is also extracted from an evergreen tree that grows up to 65 feet high.  It has dense foliage and small yellow dull flowers that is native to the Molucca islands.

This oil is also nontoxic, nonirritating and nonsensitizing.  It carries the benefits of being analgesic, antiseptic, digestive, stimulating the heart and circulation, encouraging appetite, averting constipation, acting as a good antiflammatory and aiding in sexual problems.

Nutmeg oil blends well with cypress, geranium, clary sage, orange and rosemary oils.

Ylang- Ylang Oil

This oil is extracted from a tropical tree that grows to 60 feet high, with large, fragrant pink or yellow flowers.  It is found in Madagascar, Java, Sumatra and the Comores.

Use ylang- ylang oil as a sedative, to help with anxiety, tension, shock, to reduce blood pressure, to moisturize dry skin, help with rapid breathing and sexual problems such as impotence and frigidity.

Ylang-ylang blends well with lavender, sandalwood and grapefruit essential oils.

Ginger Oil

Ginger comes from a perennial herb that grows 3-5 feet high.  It has a stalk with narrow spear shaped leaves with yellow or white flowers.

Enjoy ginger oil to ease colds, flu, nausea, motion sickness, morning sickness, arthritic pain and to help with feelings of loneliness, and as an energizing aphrodisiac.

This blends well with citrus and spicy oils, such as rose, ylang-ylang and frankincense.

Each of the 5 oils listed above will help improve your sexual relationship, and spice up the love in your relationship.  As an application, you can use a couple of drops in your bath, run the water, and once you have the water length to your satisfaction, put a couple of drops in your bath and mix with your hand, or dilute into olive, almond, grapeseed oils or another carrier oil and massage into the skin of your spouse or yourself.  You only need a few drops, though.  It will soak into your skin and increase your sexual experience taking your relationship to another level.

Note: if you are not sure of how an essential oil will affect your skin, perform a skin patch test prior to use.


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