We will not fully agree on this article, however it is out of observation, in several instances, that I state my thoughts and tips here. Self help books were popular 15 years ago and have wained a bit since then. It is not that there are fewer needs, but the directions to stop many bad habits does not seem to be a focus with as many people as in the past. Reading, the use of the library written word and other forms of the past have been taken over by the Internet. This form of self help redirects the PHD or MD to the end of our names instead of seeking out the medical or alternative advisor to discover the cause and pose a good remedy.
Instead of seeking social tips to curb objectionable traits, we cover, bury or in other ways take the limelight away from those characteristics. Doctors dealing with the minds of those with distasteful behaviors, refer them for counseling. That is; when and if the person is required to seek professional assistance for those bad habits discovered by someone else. The ball is in the court, of those professionals, to work toward some wellness for the patient. Those sessions can be hindered by many points which can completely deter the improvement, healing and reversal of the bad habits a person is seeking to obliterate.
If the counselor does not keep promises they mention, that trust is broken forever and the sharing comes to a screaching hault. Children are sometime paying attention more than adults think they are. Some promises should never be made just in case the information from the counselor or doctor has to be told to authorities or parents. Just because a child has some sorted background that has landed them with help to stop a bad habit, does not mean they have left their life wide open for anyone to enter and completely rearrange.
From the age of 11 to 16 children don't think they have much to learn from their elders. At this age, they are looking for the loop holes so they can prove they know more than the elder too. This goes for the parent, family members, doctors, counselors, teachers and anyone else they deem to put in that same category.
So much has been learned by clicking on the keyboard that parents might have dropped the ball in family matters to some degree. It is not out of lack of caring that a mother or father rely on other influences to undo the done; time sometimes does not permit the eagle eye that could have prevented the bad habit from forming in the first place. Some bad habits form right before the very loving household walls.
Lack of commitment in more than 50% of the families weighs heavily on the children of that once called "Union" they called parents. Even though divorce does not have much, if anything to do with the children, the child feels the effects of that break in their family unity. Infidelity is all over the media making it sound like it is commonplace and accepted too. Even the most prominent people are on the screen time and time again with their personal activities made very public. Promiscuity in teens has another directive too with the teen's peers talking and seemingly taking it as part of life after all.
Cell phones make texting anything along with assorted pictures to anyone available, even to strangers. It is the bad habit #1 that got out of hand to create an illegal event to eventually end in real trouble. Children make mistakes and that is why they need guidance from guardians and parents. Once an illegal act is done, the consequences are written in the laws for punishment and no longer in the reprimanding hands of the parents. A child can actually be a delinquent before he should be even in that realm of figuring because of poor choices.
I hardly suggest reverting back to the pen and pencil days or the olden times of a stationary phone on the table or wall to stop bad habits. There might be some merit to removing the tools that are harming the solid wellness of a child when they are uncovered in that capacity. It is the attentive eyes that will catch those little fopas before they become huge, breaking of the law-type problems. Searching a room for pornographic material, condoms or other information, might bring into focus some strict restraints needing to be applied and quickly.
There has been somethings said about bad habits, which are entirely different from additions, however bad habits can go smoothly into additions without too much trouble. Prevention, astute parenting, good role modeling and watching the friends your child associates with can keep the child on a good even keel. The need for these directives not only help children get mentally ready for their future, but keep them healthy in body too. These bad habits are not socially acceptable in any place nor are they the only ones.
2. Being a bad listener which includes interrupting and talking when someone else is talking.
3. Being lazy
4. Not doing as the authorative figure demands. This can be parent, teacher, police or other figures. Taking no for an answer when someone says that, comes under this category.
5. Chewing with mouth open.
6. Closing in on someones personal space without permission. Too close to ones face is an example of this. Touching someone without their precise permission is another. Some people don't like just anyone tapping their arm or shoulder or more intimate touches.
7. Undependability. Being late or not showing up for anything that was arranged.
8. Drinking without knowing when to stop. The end result is this affects many people.
9. Using profanity.
11. Spending money you do not have to spend. Excessive credit card use, borrowing from others.
12. Borrowing money from others and not intending to pay that back or making excuses when approached about the loan.
13. Listening to conversations that are none of your business.
14. Passing flatuance in public.
15. Not paying your own way.
16. Not paying attention when someone is talking to you. Allowing a person to finish talking before walking away.
17. Throwing garbage anywhere.
19. Expectorating in public
20. Taking things that do not belong to you. Borrowing without asking too.
21. Talking on the cell phone at an inappropriate time. ie. church, meeting, in public place used by many people, while visiting one person, in hospital, doctors office, courtroom etc. etc.
22. Chronic complaining about everything. Complaining a lot to one specific person.
23. Rocking or constant movement when sitting or standing. Tapping pen, fingers, figeting or making sounds that might annoy someone in close proximity.
24. Playing YOUR music loud enough that someone else can hear, that might not share love for your genre.
25. Poor eating habits.