When it comes to meeting new people, starting conversations is not easy. You have to stay calm, act natural, and focus on your desired outcome for that social interaction. However, you can come across as interesting and even charming if you pay attention to key factors in the process.

If you really want to make a great first impression, you should pay special attention to listening carefully and getting to know the other person; don't be distracted! Failing to do so will only demonstrate to this new person that you aren't really interested in getting to know them at a deeper level. Don't make this mistake! Instead, be sure to maintain eye contact and use reflective signals to show the other person that you understand what they are saying and want to know more.

Additionally, you should try your best to show your sense of humor. Keep the conversation light hearted and upbeat. If you can, you have a much greater chance of coming across as a charming and fun individual. You definitely do not want to neglect this important factor; humor and fun are important aspects in bonding with others, and you don't want to give them the impression that you are boring or negative. If you can manage to keep this in mind, chances are you will keep the discussion focused on positivity and enjoy the experience much more. Also, the other person will look forward to seeing you again because they will associate you with fun and excitement. If you don't have a great sense of humor, find a wing man to help lighten up the tone and inject some humor into the conversation. Having a friend involved in the discussion when you are meeting someone new takes some of the pressure off of you and will make you feel more at ease.

You should also avoid being too personal when you first meet someone new. It is perfectly fine to talk about the weather, how bad the coffee tastes, or how beautiful the scenery is. These light-hearted topics will break the ice and allow the other person to disclose something more personal if they wish. However, you will need to listen closely for these clues. If the other person is talking about the weather, and says how difficult it made it to work on their new house, that is an invitation to ask them about the work they are doing. This natural progression from small talk to more personal subjects is important. New people will feal more comfortable if you ease into such personal subjects instead of asking personal questions directly.

It is also important that you disclose information about your own life. Introduce key topics that are important to you if you get the chance to do so gracefully. Doing so allows the other person to get to know you as an individual. Mutual disclosure is important for the long-term development of deep relationships, and is a great way to make friends with someone you barely know. Often, at work or school, we come into contact with so many people. However, it is only when we take an interest in each others personal lives, sharing in our joys and misery, that we bond and feel close. So be sure to give new people a bit of information they can use to understand who you really are.

A great way to improve conversation skills is to attend events that are interesting to you. By doing so, you will meet many strangers who have similar interests. These similar interests will give you some common things to talk about and build a relationship upon. Just be sure to get out where people are, otherwise you won't meet anyone. Don't be afraid to start conversations; other people are usually just as nervous as you are, and will be very forgiving if you try to break the ice and start talking to them.