Finding Hope In Your Job Loss
Your Job Loss Could Be a Blessing in Disguise
So the unthinkable happened...you lost your job. There is an unbearable tightening in your chest that makes it hard for you to breathe, your stomach churns out of control, you can’t think straight, and you're sure your blood pressure is at an all time high. Some would say it's comparable to divorcing a spouse. A million questions bombard your mind: Why me? How will I pay my bills? How will my family survive? This reaction is perfectly normal and acceptable. Like any relationship, you will miss the bond you’ve formed with your coworkers, bosses and clients. So what do you do next?
Remember to Breathe. Then Step Back.
First all, breathe. And cry if you need to. Then cry more. It's important to go through the process of mourning the loss of your job. However, after the shock has worn off and you have calmed down, it's equally important for you to step back from the situation. This not only safeguards your sanity, but allows you to analyze the situation from many angles, weigh your strengths and weaknesses, and come up with a game plan.
Structure is the Name of the Game
It’s very easy to get complacent in this period of unemployment, but don’t. Now is not the time to become idle. In fact, it's the exact opposite. If you used to get up at 6am to get ready for work, continue getting up at that same time each day, getting dressed, and working those same hours at finding another job. Finding another job is now your job. Whether it's browsing job search sites on the internet, perusing the local newspapers, or attending interviews, being actively engaged in your job hunt adds structure to your day. It bears saying again: it's important to make seeking a job your new 9-5 job.
You may be tempted to break your routine as you see the days turn into weeks - don’t. Stick to this routine each day because this is what will keep you on target and make you proactive in your job search. Another important point to make here is that you need to ensure that your family and friends respect your time on “the job” and know that finding a job is now your new job. So no you can’t “shoot the breeze” with Cousin Tony in the middle of the day because you are “working.”
That’s right. Reward yourself. Despite having to keep a close eye on your newly tightened budget, it is perfectly okay to give yourself a little reward from time to time. Set a goal and meet it - whether it’s sending out a set number of resumes or landing a couple of interviews each week. Then, reward yourself when you have met those goals. So buy that book you wanted, get that pair of earrings you’ve been eyeing, or save towards a well-deserved trip to the spa. Whatever it is, consider these rewards payment for all your hard work.
Undoubtedly, this will be a very stressful time in your life, but if you remain positive, have a game plan that you stick with, remain persistent, and network, before long, you’ll be gainfully employed. In time, you’ll be able to look back on this period and see how you have become a better, stronger person because of it.