Life will always tend to force us down a road that we never expected to be on. Maybe you were happily married and then found out your spouse has been cheating on you and now you are suddenly single, lost, confused, constantly crying, and full of despair. Regardless of how you got where you are in life, it is never too late to start over. Here are some tips on how to start your life over.
Pursue Your Dreams
Maybe you have always wanted to go skydiving or become a professional cook. Regardless of your situation, now is the time to look at what you truly want to do with your life. You no longer have that nuclear family that you always wanted. Although the kids and unfortunately the ex are still in the picture, it is better for you to focus on what you truly want to do with your life instead of harping over the past and what could have been.
Maybe you have always wanted to go skydiving or become a professional cook. Regardless of your situation, now is the time to look at what you truly want to do with your life. You no longer have that nuclear family that you always wanted. Although the kids and unfortunately the ex are still in the picture, it is better for
Eliminate Negative Friends
Eliminate negative friends in your life. Definitely keep your true friends but if someone is having a negative impact on your life then you need to eliminate them. By elimination I am not talking about hiring a mob hit man to kill them, I am simply referring to cutting off all communication with them. How can you start a new life when you have the same negative people in your life? Cut the bad seeds out and enjoy the rest of the juicy fruit of life.
Do Things for Your Self
Maybe you spent all your time supporting your spouse, taking care of the kids, and keeping the house cleaning and cooking done. Now that the kids have left the nest, the souse is divorcing you, and you have hit an emotional rock bottom then you should focus on yourself. Instead of constantly doing things to help other people focus on doing things for yourself. If you want to go square dancing, take a yoga class, or learn how to shoot rifles then go ahead and do it. This is the time you need to focus on new activities that will make happy. You may just find a new passion in life.
Plan Your Future
Now is the time to plan what you want to do with your life. You are now suddenly single and although you may be depressed or in a severe state of despair, by mapping out what you would like to do with your life will help you to realize that there is a future without your ex. By improving yourself and becoming successful you will help your ex to realize they made a huge mistake when they left you.
The sky is the limit. You can do almost anything you want with your life, even if you do not realize it today. Map out and plan what you want to do.
Now that you have a goal and a plan mapped out for reaching your goal, the key now is to take action. Work towards your goals everyday even if it seems like you are simply taking baby steps. As long as you are moving forward on your goals you will eventually reach them. As you get closer to your goals the speed will come quicker and before you know it you will be leading a new life and the hateful relationship of the past will be nothing more than a dimming memory in the back of your mind.
Sometimes the best way to get a fresh start and to get a new group of friends is to move to an entirely new town or even State. If you grew up in small town Iowa but always was interested in living in say Las Vegas, Nevada, then pack up and go. New friends, new experiences, and new ways to pursue your life’s dreams and ambitions.
Although you will continue to be hurt by the pain your ex caused you, be the big person and focus on your own life instead of constantly arguing with the ex. By focusing on yourself you will be able to improve you life and even make you ex jealous. When you have a nicer car then the ex, a nice home, better paying job, and a hotter person you are dating then you will make the ex jealous. Making your ex jealous by doing positive things with your life is one of the best ways to starting over your life. If you ex always called you fat then use that as motivation to lose weight and make him jealous.
Concentrate on the Good Memories
Even though your ex may have cheated on you and treated you badly, now is the time to simply remember the good times you 2 had together. You will never forget your ex totally, but by concentrating on the good and not the bad you will be able to relax more and be able to mentally achieve more including all of the goals you mapped out for yourself.
It can be hard not to constantly focus on the past, but you do need to move on with your life and make positive choices for yourself. Enjoy life because you will die one day. You don’t want to look back with regret on things you wish you would have done, because right now you have the opportunity to do these things. Enjoy life and make a good life for yourself. If you follow all of these tips in this article you will eventually come to the realization that your ex leaving you was the best thing that could have ever happened to you.