People who are in their 20’s and 30’s are people who are looking for community with others. If you’re in your 20’s and 30’s, then you probably agree wholeheartedly with that statement. But why is this the case? Why has this simple thing become so important to all of us that are working through this vital time of our lives?
First off, relationships give us a sense of community that we’re always looking for. Why? As humans, we thrive in communities. Communities accept us for who we are, and they help us to discover our skills and talents. In general, communities are families that we choose and become integrated into. While we’re in this strange stage of our lives, we have a harder time “fitting in” with a family unit, so we work to make our own. Good, healthy relationships can replace or enhance the family unit that we are in.
Relationships also help us to realize that we’re really not on our own. In today’s world and economy, there are a lot of problems that those in their 20’s and 30’s share, and by being with others who are in the same predicament, it helps to make us feel as if we aren’t so scared and alone in this big, brave new world. We can support each other and lift each other up, especially when the times are getting hard and you don’t feel like there’s any way out of them that you can see.
Another great reason to have solid relationships with others during your 20's and 30's is because you can learn life lessons from others. This especially applies when you are interacting with those who are older than you; they can teach you how to work through both normal, everyday issues and those that may feel overwhelming. Sometimes, their experiences can prevent us from suffering through the same mistakes.
Lastly, it gives us a sense of purpose. If you’re like me, you need to be needed, and you start to struggle if you feel like you don’t have a sense of purpose in your life. By being in relationships with other people, you’re going to be more likely to thrive and live a life of purpose. You’re more likely to be giving and helpful to people that cross your path if you’re giving and receiving love on a regular basis.
So, if you’re in your 20’s or 30’s, get involved in communities of like minded people. Get closer to friends and family and you will start to see a difference in the way that you look at things. Your life will be better for it!