The Last Day You Compare is the First Day You SucceedCredit: David Andrew Wiebe

Did you know that comparison is the seed of all unhappiness?

Realistically, I don't know that it's the seed of all unhappiness, but I do believe it makes up for a huge portion of personal anguish.

If you're better than someone else, someone else is always worse off. If you're worse off than someone else, someone else is always better off.

Ultimately, you are the only person you should compare yourself against. You're either becoming a better version of you, or you're not. You can make the most of what you've got, or you can choose to be less than you're capable of being.

So, letting go of comparison frees you to focus on you. You don't have to concern yourself with others or what they might be up to or what they've accomplished.

The Problem with Comparison

Once you plant your eyes on yourself, you will be better positioned to improve yourself. Until then, you'll just be wondering what went wrong. You'll be wondering why some people have what you want, and why you don't. That gets in the way of personal growth.

In other words, you'll have a really hard time growing when comparison is in the way. In the game of life, I don't believe you should be trying to be someone else; you should be trying to be the best version of you. That can only happen when you love yourself.

When you see others succeed, you should celebrate and applaud. They are showing you the way. They are showing you that it's possible. They are showing you that you can do it too.

The First Day You Succeed

You have the opportunity to win when you're not trying to stack yourself up against others who have done things that you haven't yet. You can get back to challenging yourself. You can make conscious, incremental changes that only you know you need to make.

The fact that you've chosen not to compare anymore is a win unto itself. But the greater win is in developing self-awareness. You can't change what you aren't aware of.

With comparison out of the way, now the only goal is in reaching your personal best. Few people are aware of the potential that is within themselves. You can begin to discover these hidden resources in an intentional way.

Offering Love

I believe that freeing yourself of comparison also frees you up to love. Love is a powerful emotion; a force. It has the ability to motivate and change people. It has the ability to lift people and reach their true potential.

I believe that offering more love means getting love back. What you offer, you will see expand in your life. With more love in your life, you will be happier and more fulfilled. That's not a destination, but on your journey you will surely require the support and love of others too.

Comparison can be a form of hate. It can be the culprit of a whole host of negative emotions like jealousy, anger, fear, and so on. Negative emotions keep you trapped in the same place. If you want to see breakthrough in your life, you will probably have to change the way you feel.


At the end of the day, you are a unique individual. There is no one else like you. Simultaneously, everyone is like you. This should give you comfort, because you have a point of connection with everyone you come into contact with. Their basic desires are very similar to yours, if not the same.

Everybody is at a different stage of their journey. You will be able to help others, and others will be able to help you. The differences are there to be appreciated; not to be criticized or ridiculed.

When is the last time you compared yourself to someone else? How did it feel?

Comparison is a destructive force. However, each one of us has the ability to find peace and contentment within ourselves.