How many of you out there like to watch other people? And I’m not talking about the creepy voyeurism but the more inquisitive watching where you learn through actions and reactions.
Interrogations are often navigated based on body language and you to can preform your own internal type of examination when interacting with people. And doing this analysis of those you are speaking with can save you both time and potential embarrassment.
The beauty about learning this is that as soon as you train your mind to notice particular reactions then they almost become like instinct and you’ll react without even having to think about it.
So this article is here to present you with 5 ways to notice when people are not giving you their undivided attention.
1. Eye contact
Making eye contact shows interest and that each person is engaged in the conversation. The reciprocation tunnel is active and information is flowing. If you notice little to no eye contact then discontinue the conversation.
2. Conversation Noise
Okay, I realize this may be new to you but after I explain you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. Usually when people are noticeably interested you’ll get positive noise feedback in-between your natural speaking pauses. These will be in the form of, “Yes, I see” or “Interesting” but the point to remember is that they will come at the proper time; at a time when the pause in the conversation calls for it.
If they are saying, “Yes” or “Uh-uh” or something along those lines while you’re talking then it might be time to end the conversation.
3. Texting while Talking
Aka… TWT. There isn’t much to say about this one. If someone is texting while you are talking to him or her then the conversation needs to be ended.
4. Subject Changer
You’ve done it yourself or you’ve been victim to the subject changer. In mid stream… in mid sentence you’re talking about Sally’s dreams and Kevin changes the subject to buying a new car. At this point... You know what to do. End the conversation.
5. What was that?
So you’re talking. You are detailed. You are going on a rant. You ask a question and the person says, “What was that?” Clearly they were not paying attention so you respond by saying never mind and end the conversation.
The intent here is to make you aware or solidify thoughts about attention you may have or already had. What you are saying is important so don’t take less than someone’s undivided attention. Don't be afraid to the end the conversation when you notice someone isn't paying attention. As mentioned previously this will become instinct and you'll start noticing earlier and earlier when people aren't paying attention.