While a lot of women dream of being pampered and lavished with gifts, flowers and attention from their prince charming, it is important to face the reality that you are not going to die if you are alone on Valentine’s Day.
Don’t fret if you’re alone on Valentine’s Day. In fact, you really don’t need to be alone on that day. You can still be happy with your family and friends. Here are some tips for the single ladies who want to survive Valentine’s Day:
Change your outlook
If you are feeling sad and lonely just because you are single on Valentine’s Day, realize that you are not the only one who feels this way. Yes, there may be those who feel miserable but there are also single people who are loving the fact that they are single. Furthermore, there are couples who are actually avoiding the day altogether because of pressure and too much commercialization. Changing your whole perspective on Valentine’s Day can help you make things easier.
Being single during this season is a good opportunity to spoil yourself. You can cook something special for yourself, go to the spa or salon to have that makeover that you’ve been planning on, have a long, hot and relaxing bath! You don’t have to think about other person’s feelings – you are at last free to spend this day to do anything that you want.
Do what needs to be done
There are certain things that you’ve been meaning to do but just didn’t have time to deal with. This Valentine’s Day, why don’t you finish the things that need to be done? Arrange those books on your shelf, organize your closet, do something about your kitchen. Really, there are more important things to take care of than thinking about Valentine’s Day.
Discover a new hobby
Maybe you have been thinking of joining a dance class or a yoga session. Do you want to learn how to cook or bake? Why don’t you enroll in a class this season? Challenging yourself is a great way to keep yourself busy.
Go to a singles' party
You can find several bars that organize singles’ parties especially during Valentine’s Day. This kind of party can give you an opportunity to have a good time as a single woman. Remember not to expect anything romantic – your aim is to have fun and meet new people and make new friends.
Give yourself a gift
It doesn’t have to be red roses or sweet chocolates – you can give yourself something that you’ve been wanting to have, such as a book or a stylish bag. The best thing about this is that you won’t be disappointed with the gift that you’ll be receiving.
Be with the people that you truly love
Valentine’s Day should not be limited to couples. It should also be a special day to spend with your loved ones – your family, friends and even colleagues. Being with the people you love can instantly make you feel good and loved. Call them, invite them to dinner or a chat over a cup of coffee – it doesn’t really matter how you spend the day, the important thing is that you give that special day to be with them.
Write a letter to yourself
It doesn’t have to be a ‘love’ letter, really (because composing a love letter to yourself on Valentine’s Day is torture, isn’t it?). The letter could be something about you – your thoughts, goals, plans and expectations. Write down your feelings about your family, job, friends and the things that you want to achieve in life. You can also write something about the man that you want to be with. Make sure that he’s not the ‘man of your dreams’ type because you’ll only disappoint yourself in the future. What you need is a man who can be a friend and a lover, someone you can love despite his shortcomings. After all, love isn’t about being with a ‘perfect’ guy.
Try speed dating
These days, speed dating is a very common way to find new people and even find someone to date. However, remember that speed dating should only be for fun and should be taken seriously, especially if you are mending a broken heart or badly looking for a lifetime partner. You can find at least one speed dating affair on Valentine’s day and if you’re lucky, you’ll find one that will exclusively cater your interests or preference – graduate students, movie buffs, comic book lovers, bookworms, and more.
Start a garage sale
Go ahead, get rid of all those things that you no longer need – old books, toys, old clothes, jewelries and furniture. And since it’s Valentine’s Day, why not include the things and gifts given by your ex boyfriend? You may use the internet to sell those stuff but you can also arrange a garage sale right in front of your own backyard. You can also invite other friends and neighbors who want to participate and sell stuff from their exes. Make it a small event, which could include free lemonade drinks and even cookies. This will not only let you forget about your painful past, but it can also earn you friends, and a few bucks.
Adopt a new pet
If you’ve always been loving and caring and you think that you have the means to care and support a new pet, why not adopt a dog or a cat? While having a pet is completely different from having a special someone, it could offer the same kind of love, and sometimes, even more. Aside from the fact that a pet can reduce stress, it can also provide unconditional love, which could be difficult to find nowadays.
If you don’t have someone to spend the Valentine’s Day with, don’t fret. It is not the end of the world. After all, it is just like any other day and before you know it, it’s over. If you are really hating this ‘lover’s day’, it is probably best to stay home – read a book, have a cup of coffee, sleep. Because if there's anything you don't want to see, it's sweet couples and Valentine’s decorations everywhere, right?