In American society the divorce rate may be decreasing, but so is the rate for marriages. Statistics show the divorce rate to be close to fifty percent for first marriages; couples with children have a slightly lower rate. Homes with two parents decreased significantly in the span between 1960 and 2009. In 1960, 91 percent of families were two parent households. This decreased to 73 percent in 2009. Between 1960 and 2007 the number of cohabitating unmarried couples increased by 88 percent. Married or unmarried, what keeps couples together?
1. Members Sacrifice
Members in a healthy family are willing to make sacrifices for the unit as a whole and for each
A simple example is choosing personal activities that do not interfere with family activities. Many households are caught up in the frantic lifestyle of carpooling the kids from one activity to another. Too many times other household members are at the mercy of one or two members’ activities. Sacrifices can be small and still benefit the family unit.
2. Members Show Appreciation
Families functioning in a healthy way notice the “little” things others do; for example acknowledging another member who helps to bring in groceries without being asked. Members willingly offer their assistance to other members of the unit.
3. Members Have Good Communication
Healthy families engage in communication using healthy communication styles. They speak
Discussions occur frequently in these households. Children are encouraged to voice opinions. Parents lead by example, teaching their children to communicate clearly to others. The members learn the love language of the other members and are able to communicate in that language.
4. Members Cultivate Time Together
5. Members Display Coping Abilities
Life can be stressful, but families who are structurally sound exhibit good coping abilities.
6. Members Exude a Sense of Spiritual Wellness
The majority of truly healthy families exhibit a sense of spiritual wellness as a family. The
Healthy families thrive when these characteristics are evident. Even well-functioning households have disputes and undergo stressful situations, but these members have the ability to push through troubling times in a healthy manner. They are a strong unit who support and discipline family members with love.
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