Shy dating can be painful, no matter which side you are on. You may even want to avoid it altogether because you never know how to act or what to say. It's ok to be introverted and introspective but that doesn't mean that you have to miss out on a social life or a meaningful relationship. Here are some tips for successful shy dating.

Start being more social. This doesn't mean that you have to be the life of the party or drastically change your personality. You don't even have to date yet; you just need to ease into conversation. You could do this simply in a way that expresses your interests. You could try going to a book club to get used to talking in front of small groups of people. Who knows you may even meet someone when you least expect it.

Let the other person do the talking. So often we think that we have to come up with some brilliant topic of conversation to be liked. In reality, most people enjoy talking about themselves. If you don't know what to talk about on a date, then show a genuine interest in the other person. They'll probably think that you are a brilliant and generous conversationalist.

Change up how you date. Writing might be easier for you then talking. Then internet dating is a natural progression. You might want to read over your conversations and emails to see exactly how and what you like to talk about. This can translate into your conversations later on.

Feel confident. You might not talk a lot because you are afraid that you aren't good enough or you think that other people will make fun of you. Try being friendly and see how it feels and determine whether it works for you. You can do a simple makeover on how you look, or just try straightening up your posture for a confident look.

Lighten up on your expectations. You might be scared to talk to someone because you don't want to mess up future relationships. Some women have even put their first names with someones last name before they even go out on a first date. Instead learn to enjoy a situation for what it is. This will take the pressure off so you can relax. Plus, you'll probably be able to treat the person as a friend so the conversation will just start to flow naturally.

Shy dating can be an adventure. You may even come off as being mysterious. The most important part is that you actually give it a try and you'll get better at dating as it becomes a habit.