Bringing up children is every mum’s joy and most mums will spare every single moment to be with their children. However, there comes a time when mum and child will eventually be separated, either due to school, resumption of job or other reasons.
Whether he or she is a toddler who does not want to be left in a nursery or an older kid who dislikes mum going out, all mums will have to deal with clinginess at some point in parenting.
It becomes a worrying issue when the child results into not feeding, playing or generally being social until mum returns home. In this article, I will explain some handy tips that mums can use to deal with clingy children.
- Dealing with clinginess starts after the child is born. As a mother, start socializing your child early, get him or her used to being with other people and occasionally leave the kid with other people. You can start doing this for just a moment say 5-10 minutes and gradually extending the time as the child becomes more settled. By doing so, not only will you help the kid to be comfortable with other people but it will also help you as a mother being separated with the child.
- If the youngster is clingy at nursery, you can start by gradually leaving him or her for a period of 30 minutes to an hour and coming back when you say. It will also help if you let the nursery helpers to know that the child is undergoing a clingy phase. Entice and raise the kid enthusiasm by talking about a special something in the nursery that you know the child would like. Be a good listener in this one, listen when he or she is back home to know if something is upsetting him or her in nursery.
As a mother, start socializing your child early, get the kid used to being with other people and occasionally leave the child with other people.
- If the child turns out be clingy only when you go out, it may help to get a kind but firm babysitter or even someone close enough. A clingy child will always watch and monitor mum's movements so the babysitter should be able to distract the child when you are moving out.
- Mums should not express nervousness when leaving their children as they may pick those behaviors. Help him or her to be courageous and comfortable. You can talk about how nice the stay with the babysitter will be or how much the child will enjoy playing, drawing or painting with the babysitter.
- If the kid becomes increasingly clingy, it may help to find out why is that, perhaps all is not well at nursery or even at home with the babysitter for example, bullying. If you are working, come back early unexpectedly at the nursery or home and observe whether the kid is playing or socializing happily. If the child is not happy it may give you a hint that all is not well.
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Mums should not express nervousness when leaving their children as they may pick those behaviors
- Mask the child distress when you are leaving to give him or her confidence of being left with the babysitter. You can do this by hugging or smiling to the child when you are leaving.
- If the youngster looks unhappy or start crying when you leave, do not return to sooth him or her. Instead, return a reassuring look to the child but calmly and confidently leave.
- Encourage and reassure the child that all will be well once you leave. However, be careful. Reassurance can sometimes become a problem especially if the kid becomes too used to it such that he or she can not be confident without constant need for reassurance.
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