With millions of women flocking to popular online dating sites like Plenty of Fish, it's no surprise that just as many men are jumping on the opportunity. After all, what's better than scoring a hot date from the comfort of your computer or phone? Nothing, right? Well, if you're like most guys who have tried their luck at online dating, you know how frustrating it is to actually make a solid connection with women over the internet. Success is usually hit-and-miss,
and almost every guy runs into the same aggravating problems:
- Out of every dozen women you message, you're lucky to hear back from ONE of them.
- Those who do respond often times lose interest quickly and stop responding all together.
- In the off-chance you DO manage to set up a date with someone, there's always a 70% likelihood she'll flake and leave you scratching your head.
Because of these issues, a lot of men simply lose faith in meeting women online and give up. You may have friends that relentlessly trash talk sites like POF claiming they're "scams." Hell, you might even have some unkind words to say about online dating.
All this is understandable.
What men NEED to understand, however, is that there are certain things they can do to vastly improve their chances of meeting Mrs. Right online. With just a few subtle tweaks to your profile and message strategy, you'll put yourself way ahead of the competition.
Below are 3 frequently overlooked online dating tips for men:
1) Start Seeing Things From HER Perspective
It's easy for us guys to get "tunnel vision" as we browse through hundreds of female profiles. After all, we're interested in one thing: Finding a beautiful woman and getting her attention!
What most men typically forget is that these women get BLASTED with messages every day. It's not uncommon for an attractive woman to receive more than three dozen messages within a 24-hour period.
In an interesting case study, a fake female profile was set up on Plenty of Fish. The experiment aimed to give men a better look at what a beautiful female experiences every time she logs into her online dating account. The results were eye opening.
According to the experiment, the fake profile received over 400 messages within 36 hours of going public. This shows you exactly how overwhelming online dating can be for many women.
That's why it's important to relate to her experience first and adjust your approach accordingly.
2) Make a List of Your Most Attractive Qualities
Before setting up an online profile, you should always dabble in a little self-assessment. Many guys make the mistake of not taking enough time to display their most attractive qualities on their profile. Unfortunately (or fortunately for YOU), most men do one of two things:
- Write long-winded biographies on themselves that contain too many unnecessary details about their lives.
- Rush through the "Bio" section without giving any thought into the implications of their haste.
In order to avoid filling your profile with too much clutter and not enough relevant info, make a list of your most attractive qualities. This will help you narrow down your top "selling points" to display to the world. After all, online dating is a bit like marketing in several ways (hint: you're the product!).
If nothing else, making a list will enforce a positive self-image that will help you present yourself confidently to potential matches. Make sure EVERYTHING you write about yourself alludes to one of your best qualities and nothing else.
3) Learn About Her Before Clicking "Send"
Men tend to make the mistake of using a shotgun approach when sending messages to women. A typical message a female receives in her inbox usually consists of something like, "Hey! What's Up?" or, "Wow! You're beautiful! Wanna chat?" Now realize she receives DOZENS of these messages a day. How do you stand out from this clutter? This is where Tip #1 becomes powerful...
Before composing a message, make sure to read her profile to get a better sense of who she is and what she likes. This may seem like an obvious step, but most guys tend to skip this.
Once you know a little more about her, find some common ground you both share and make sure to bring it up in your message. She'll be happy to know you actually took the time to read about her instead of just sending empty compliments in hopes you'd flatter her.
Because you now know how flooded her inbox gets on a daily basis, it's easy to captivate her attention by sending a message along the lines of, "Hey! I noticed you're new here. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you must be with all these dudes sending you pointless messages... I'll do you a favor and skip the cliché compliments lol So, tell me more about [one of her interests]. I'm actually thinking about [doing something related to her interest]."
Just keep it original and upbeat! Also, never sell yourself in your introductory message. It'll make you seem desperate and needy. Keep the conversation on her and only allude to your best qualities if she asks for more information.
Hopefully, you took something away from these 3 online dating tips for men. It's easy to get frustrated with online dating as it's becoming progressively more saturated. Just remember to stand out and relate to potential matches as much as possible. Try to be yourself and don't hide behind a fake persona. If you take these tips to heart and put your own unique twists on them, you'll begin to see results immediately.
Now go out there and score some hot dates!