But of course, at some point you need to stop browsing and add your own profile to the mix. This scares a lot of people. How can they be sure to attract the type of person that they want to spend the rest of their lives with?
By writing the perfect profile!
Here are a few tips to help you write the perfect online dating profile -
Stick with Guys and Gals Within 25-miles of Home
You may be tempted to post profiles all over the state, but don't. Not only are long-distance relationships hard to keep going, if it moves on to the next level, someone will have to move. Would you be willing to move for someone? So do yourself a big favor and stick within 25 miles of your home.
A lot of people take advantage of the anonymity of the internet to inflate themselves and their importance in their profile. So, that "CEO of an internet startup" could just be a guy who spends his day building money-making sites online. Or the "average weight" guy could be over 200 lbs.
Don't go along with this trend! Be truthful about yourself. If there's something that you're really worried about, then say it straight out so it's not a surprise to anyone. The more open you are about who you really are and what you want, the more apt you are to find your perfect love.
Of course, you could always find better descriptive words to help cushion any qualities that people frown upon. For instance, if you're overweight, you could say that you're "cuddly" or "voluptuous". If you're going grey, you could say you have "salt and pepper hair". Be a little inventive!
Be Short and Sweet
These days, people have the attention spans of gnats, especially when online. You could write the perfect descriptive of yourself but if it's too long, it won't get read. Not many people will want to read a novel on their computer screen.
Keep it short and sweet. Don't wander away from the theme of your profile – you! Think about who you really are and what makes you unique.
To save on words, keep away from clichés, like "moonlight strolls along the beach". These are overused and just silly when you're talking about an adult relationship.
Do a Spelling and Grammar Check
This ad / profile is your first impression, so make it count! Don't let some stupid typing mistake ruin it for you! Make use the spelling and grammar check available in any word processor to ensure that what you say is what you meant to say.
If you feel comfortable, you can always have someone you trust read through the text and make suggestions. They might catch something that you and the computer missed. Your computer's spell check won't find lapses in taste and logic but a second set of eyes could.
The Perfect Photo
Though it's not required, including a picture with your profile will help increase the sheer number of responses you get. You should use a fairly recent picture that is close to what you look like right now. Keep away from the group shots – people will be left wondering which person is actually you. Also, don’t post pictures of you with someone of the opposite sex, even if he's your brother – it just leads to too many questions.
Do not, under any circumstances, put your full name, address, phone number, or real email address in your profile. Use a throwaway email for all contacts with possible dates – that way, if a date goes horribly wrong or you run into one of those patented crazies that everyone talks about, they can't cause you too much trouble.