Everyone has a hard day, stubs their toe, gets a little emotional, etc. That's just life! But what do you do when you can't seem to get out of that temporary funk? You absolutely do NOT want to end up stuck in Doomsville. So here are a few tips and tricks to help you recover from your emotional downtime.
First and foremost, STOP!! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop beating yourself up. Stop hating someone who hurt you. Stop being angry. Stop blaming people. Just STOP! Picture a big stop sign in your head and tell your thoughts to stop. What happened is already in the past. It's time to move on. Time to start healing. You can't move forward when you're lugging a chest full of emotional baggage. So stop and let go.
Next, remember that everything happens for a reason. When I first met my fiance there were some extenuating circumstances that kept us from getting together. We really liked each other, but it just didn't happen. Then, about 6 months later, we happened to be at the same place at the same time and sparks flew freely! As it happened, that was supposed to be our time together. Had we gotten together sooner, we might not be here right now. So don't get lost in the world of shoulda/coulda/woulda's. Heck, I spilled a huge container of chili all over the floor last night. For some reason, that was meant to happen. Don't question it; accept it.
Have you ever heard of the Jetta syndrome? It's another way to explain the law of attraction. When I was in college, I was thinking about buying a Jetta. All of a sudden I started seeing Jettas everywhere I went! I couldn't believe how many Jettas I saw. I knew I didn't always see that many Jettas around until I started thinking about getting one. That is basically the law of attraction. If you focus on being sad, depressed, hurt, a perpetual victim, then all you will feel is sad, depressed, hurt and like you are a perpetual victim. But if you focus on the good in your life, then you will start to see the good. Think about your family, friends, pets, etc. Focus on your house, car, whatever it takes! Find some good somewhere and make that the center of your thoughts. From that good, more will come. You will see what you want to see. So why would you want to see negative? I'm sure you don't deliberately want to be sad! By focusing on anything positive in your life, you will start to see more and more good everywhere you look. Just try it. What do you have to lose?
Now I am going to get up on my soapbox and tell you to "GET UP!!!!" Exercise is scientifically proven to help your mood. And who can argue with science? Exactly. So get up and get moving. Go for a walk, run, bike ride, swim, crawl, I don't care. Just get up and make your body move. Heck, go out dancing! (Just stay away from the fatty bar food while you're out.) It doesn't really matter what you do as long as you move your body and get your heart pumping. Just try 30-60 minutes a day, 3-5 days a week and see how you feel. You can't imagine how much better you will feel physically, mentally, and most importantly, emotionally. It's like a miracle cure! If you can afford it, try joining a gym. The socialization is just another added bonus to help boost your mood. It's all around goodness!!
And yes, of course, your diet has a huge effect as well. Not only does eating better keep your weight under control, which makes you feel better, but the nutrition gives your body some much needed mood boosting as well. If you don't believe me, just try it. Eat healthy for a few nights - salads with grilled chicken, soup and sandwich, whole grain pasta, veggies, etc. Then go to a fast food restaurant. You will absolutely notice a difference. Filling up on fat does not necessarily motivate you to go take over the world. It makes you feel bloated, heavy and just downright lazy! And I don't know about you, but laying around feeling like a blimp, not getting anything done, is sure to be a downer on my mood! So why do that to yourself? Fuel up on good stuff and good stuff will happen. Yep, I said it...
Finally, don't ever forget the GIGO rule. Garbage In, Garbage Out. Surround yourself with negativity and you will cultivate more negativity. But surround yourself with positivity and you can't help but catch the bug. Again, science has proven this. There was one particular study I remember where people in a factory were monitored as they worked beside people who were negative and complained constantly and then people who were happy, positive and productive. When being by the negative person, they had more headaches, got sick more often, and were just downright unhappy. But when those same people worked beside the positive people, they were more positive, felt better and were more productive. So our parents were right. We are who we surround ourselves with. Take a look at the people in your life and take a serious inventory. If there is anyone in your life who does you more harm than good, kick them to the curb! Don't sacrifice your health and well-being because someone else has issues. Not worth it!!
I hope that taking care of yourself and loving yourself the way you should be loved will help you to realize how amazing you are. You deserve to be happy. We all do! The only thing I beg of you is to please stay away from dangerous, temporary, mood enhancers. Sure, having a couple of drinks and hanging out with friends can be fun. But when a couple of drinks turns into too many drinks, too often, we have a problem! And NEVER EVER EVER turn to drugs. Be smart. The costs WAY outweigh the benefits. So not worth it. Deal with life, don't sweep it under the rug. You'll feel so much better about yourself. Good luck!!