NEWS FLASH! There are men who really think marriage is a good thing. According to a study done by Rutgers University Marriage project, 85% of men believe that a happy, healthy marriage is one of the most imporant things in life.
SO WHAT ARE GUYS LOOKING FOR?
A soul mate. Nearly half of all single men said they'd be ready to get married tomorrow if the right person came along. "I dont think theres a righ time- only a right person, "says Christian Burchman, 27, from Houston, TExas, summing up the sentiments of many. "When Christina and I first met I thought, this girl's going to be my best friend, a one ngihts stand or my wife. She became all three."
A Maternal Instinct. A high percentage of marreid men said they specifically looked for somoen who would be a good mother. "I noticed how muich she loves her neice and nephew," says Nathaniel Bail,29, of Miami, Florida, whose been married for two years. "She never misses a brithday, and takes them to SeaWorld when they visit. That meant alot to me."
An Equal Partner. Seventy three percent of single men want their wives to work. The cosensus: if there's no debate about who bring in what, there's more time to enjoy each other.
TOP THREE REASONS MEN HOLD OFF POPPING THE QUESTION:
Their parents marriage flopped. "it's not that a guys whose parents were divorced won't ever want to marry. Hes just more cautious about it," says Robertson. Having seen a marriage work reduces the anxiety levels about life long partnerhsop.
They want to be financially secure. Nearly half of single men said they would like to own a home before they marry; 40 percent want to be able to afford a nice wedding.
They love the fun single life. This from 74 percent of guys- inlcuding the aforementioned men who would med tomorrow if they met their match. Clearly, some men have mixed feelings, to which we say: Hey! what's not fun about sleep overs every night?
JUST DON'T GIVE HIM A DEADLINE. Only 15 percentr of married men surveyed got engaged because thier girlfriend pressured them. "Sure deadline exist, and women set them, but guys want to believe it's their own free will," says Robertson. Adds Mark Wright, 34, of Newark, New Jersey, whose been married for four years: "if a girl is being pushy, then it's clear that it's more about getting married and less about marrying you."
MARRIAGE IS GOOD FOR MEN (SUGGESTION: CUT THIS LIST OUT AND STICK IT TO HIS FRIDGE- OR HIS FOREHEAD)
- 94 percent of men said they're happier after getting married
- 73 percent have better sex lives than when they were single
- 68 percent are more financially stable.